I’m a stay at home mom not a maid

I just need somewhere to vent. Feel free to tell me if I’m over reacting or being ungrateful. My SO is such a big hearted kind man. He blessed me with the opportunity to stay home with our kids while he works but I’m going insane. He’s such a slob. He doesn’t clean up after himself and I can’t take it anymore. When I do his laundry I don’t even have anywhere to put it because he fills his clothing drawers with junk. He will throw everything from his pocket in the drawer (pens, loose change, receipts, candy wrappers, He takes his pants off and puts them in the middle of the floor because he’s too lazy to empty them. Then when I tell him to put them away he just emptied he contents into his drawer. Tonight he let our toddler dump his dinner all over the floor and didn’t even bother to clean it up until I came downstairs, saw it and started to clean. He eats and leaves his plates and cups in the middle of the living room floor. He eats candy and then puts the wrappers back in the candy bowl when the trash can is right there.. after I clean the bathroom he will shave and leave hair all over the sink.. there’s so much more.