My mom controlling my birth control

So I have been put on birth control since I was 15 (my first serious relationship) and I’ve been on it ever since I’ve turned 20. I recently had my iud removed because it was giving me the worst pain I’ve ever experienced in my life. And my mom kept telling me it’s cramps nothing to do with the iud. So I finally told her I’m going to get in removed because I was crying everyday from the pain. I got it out and it stopped and she has been freaking out ever since that I need to get back on something. So I started taking a birth control pill, but it made me so sick and dizzy and my mom and boyfriend were annoyed with me because I started lying about it (not to him) cuz I knew my mom would lash out on me..And I finally came clean with her I haven’t been because my mom noticed I didn’t pick up any refills for the pills. And she was very mad and forced me to go to the doctors and saying if I don’t get on something and I get pregnant I’m on my own and she’s not gonna help me because she didn’t get help (she got pregnant at 17) and I said well if I ever did end up getting pregnant don’t treat me like this then expect to come around later when the baby would be here. And she continues to say have fun living in a shitty apartment your whole life then. And it really hurt my feelings. She says I still depend on them for everything and the only reason I have is because I finished cosmetology school a month ago and I still owe 1200 a month so my money goes towards that.. and Christmas gifts right now.. my school will be paid off in April but anyways me and my boyfriend have been together for a year (some rough patches) but we are serious. I’m 20 and he’s 25 and he supports financially well. He has an apartment with a roommate right now but when his lease is up we plan to move out and get our own place and me get a new car because I need one. But other than that I graduated I work. Hairstylist and waitress. And she says I’d be living upstairs in her house pregnant and raising her insurance. And I just think it was really hurtful. And yet my boyfriends mom (a lot older than my mom) always says she’s ready for a baby. Now I have the birth control patch I haven’t used yet because I’m scared of infertility and making me sick. I’ve had multiple scares multiple high times I could have been pregnant and haven’t been.. that time I took plan B..I just don’t know how to handle people that try to control things in my life so much.. I’ve always wanted a baby but I’ve never told anyone I was trying BECAUSE IM REALLY NOT.. and she had my dad talk to me about it and it was just really awkward and embarrassing because I’m 21 in two months, my boyfriend 26 in two months and don’t need to hear about that from my father... advice???