I just wanna be spoiled 😩

Is it bad that I just want to have a guy that will spoil me? Not that I want him to buy me everything, bc I have my own money, but sometimes I want my man to be like “nah you ain’t paying for that” Or I want him to surprise me w flowers, surprise me w my favorite food, surprise me w a nice planned dinner date, give me a foot massage w/o me asking, eat me out w/o me asking, he don’t even ask me if I’m hungry & I LOVE FOOD 😭💔 Like wtf I feel like I’m a good girlfriend, I buy & surprise him w stuff all the time. I just wanna be spoiled & showed some appreciation. He’s 31 I’m 20. How do I bring this too his attention w/o coming off as a gold digger or whatever