Pregnant at 18, help??

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i’m about to turn 19, i’m in college with 2 1/2 years left, i live with my parents, and i just found out i’m pregnant. I have no job because i’m fortunate enough to not need one. I have told my mom i’m pregnant and she’s disappointed in me. She says i can continue to live here and they will help me out as much as possible but i just feel guilty about it. My dad is the only one with a job and he earns a good salary but he has 4 other people + a dog that rely on his salary. My boyfriend has a job but it’s not a job that will fully support a baby. 
My mom said it’s all up to me to decide if i want to keep it or not but i really really cannot make a decision.
Either decision i make will be hard and i just feel so alone and stressed about it. 
If i have an abortion i honestly will feel awful about it for the rest of my life. I feel like i will regret it and i feel like my boyfriend will hate me deep down even though he supports whatever decision i make. 
If i keep it i will feel guilty about having to put that burden on my parents and i will have a child before i’ve even started on my own life. 
I really cannot come up with a decision and no one can tell me what to do or convince me to do either one because at the end of the day it’s still just what i want. 
I’m only 3-4 weeks so i have time for whichever choice but i feel like i’ll never decide 😭
I don’t know what to do 😔💔

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So many girls your age or even younger have had babies and managed to raise them perfectly fine even when they didn't have their family's support or the boyfriend's support. You can do it I promise. Sure it's not what you imagined for your life, but you can totally manage. Your mom is disappointed now but as time passes by she will support you. I swear you can do it. I always thought that if I had a baby at an unconvenient time I would keep it because I've seen my aunt struggle with conceiving (she's too old to have one now). A baby is really a blessing and it will make you grow in so many ways. I know it's hard, but hang in there. You'll be fine!! Is your boyfriend supporting? How long have you been together?

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There's also adoption. Only u can decide on what is right for u. Good luck darling.

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Keep. it’ll be the best blessing. it’ll be worth the struggle, i promise.

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Everyone telling you to go get a job...I would say finish college. Have the baby or not but finish your education and then get a job.

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Best thing you can do: put your baby before you

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I was your age when I was pregnant too and in college with 2 plus years left. I gave birth to my baby boy at 20 and still was able to graduate college on time. I’m now 26 and my son is 6 we are great!! You are lucky to have your parents support I had nobody but myself and I still was able to do it all. My son was my inspiration I knew I had to do it not only for me but for him.

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I was 17 when I got pregnant, I was 18 in the November & my son was born in the March! I postponed college till he was 6 months old & then I went back. I was living with my parents at the time. It was hard, I missed out a lot with my son being in college full time but I knew it's what I had to do. I finished college after 2 years & got a job, I got my own place & then started university that to was hard work juggling a 2 year old, a house & university but it was all worth it to provide for myself & my son. My point being as hard as this journey will be for you it is possible to still have a good life being a young mum. I'm 31 now, my son is 13 in March & I'm due my second baby a little girl in 4 days. What ever decision you make just make sure you take the time to really think about it. I hope this helps you a little 😊 good luck

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You are still quite young, I'm not questioning your ability to parent, but I'm saying that perhaps it's too early. This could make it significantly more difficult to get to your feet financially.  Whatever you choose, this will be life-changing, and there's no going back.  You can always have a baby later, but this is your decision though, and no one has the right to judge you for what you decide.

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Girl there's options, if you think that you can't do it ok give the baby in adoption. But if you wan to keep it, you can make it workout the situation it will not be easy but you can do it. For example I now you are studying but you can slow down your career and get a job now at least part time. And after the baby is born keep working (after your maternity leave) If your mom, mother in law, someone can help you  staying with the baby so you can keep working that will be great. I'm not saying don't study delay it and then take a few classes online. You can get Medicaid for the baby at would be completely cover or another insurance you can apply low cost. Also the dad has to help you. The first year if you breastfeed and you can stock diapers that help you a lot to save money. I know moms that they stock with their baby shower anothers with coupons. And the baby stuff you can get use stuff and there's a lot of stuff that you don't need for the baby, so just focus on the essentials. Is just my opinion 🤷 I know that the things can work out. I wish you luck!!!

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If you want to keep the baby i suggest you look for a job or your BF will need to get a better one. I just dont think its right for you to have that burden on your parents. Its not going to be easy working and going to college but if your really motivated and want to make it work then you will find a way and the desire to do it. Good luck.

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