Am I being unreasonable?

Me and my OH were discussing when we go into labour last night. He said his mum and auntie (who has always lived with him) would want to be at the hospital. Not in the actual room, but waiting in the waiting room while I was in labour. I told him I didn’t want this. It’s not that I wouldn’t want them to be my first visitors because it’s her first grandchild and I understand why she would possibly want to be there. I just don’t want to have the pressure of having people literally waiting downstairs for me to give birth so they could be there straight away. I kept telling him that labour isn’t something that is controllable and I could be in labour for 24+ hours or I could be in there for an hour. I also don’t want my own family at the hospital. I’d rather (if I can) be straight out the hospital and home, where I would welcome anyone to visit. When I’m settled. And clean. And rested.

He said I’m excluding his mum.......

My mum is going to be my birthing partner as well as my OH. She was there for me for my first baby and well.. she’s my mum. I want her there to support me not so she can see baby first. My OH is very supportive but he doesn’t have a clue about childbirth at all. I try to teach him as I go along but it’s in one ear and out the other.

I then suggested maybe his mum could look after my DS (he’s 5) and bring him to meet his new sibling, maybe that would make it more special for her.

Am I being unreasonable? He seemed upset but the whole thing makes me uncomfortable. The last thing I’m thinking about is pleasing other people while I’m in the throes of labour.