So my sister in law and I have always had an ok relationship (completely on her terms but I’m a peaceable person) I just don’t understand her. The whole family loves her husband. He’s kind, gentle, and really fun to be around. But she’s constantly talking him down when we’re with the whole family, especially her parents. When we’re hanging out just as friends I don’t hear much negativity (much, it’s always an undertone) but I don’t get why you would want to show all your dirty laundry to your parents... if my husband and I are really not doing well or fighting about something I don’t even want to go be with any family in case they catch on to what’s happening. I just don’t get why you would want to complain about your spouse to your family. Does she not want her family to appreciate, love, and respect him? I know this really doesn’t have much to do with me it’s just something that’s bugged me because if my husband treated me like that I’d burst into tears right there. The sad thing is that sometimes her husband looks really really sad when we’re together. He’s always consistently kind to her but he looks depressed and he’s been having some health issues which we had talked about since I had had some really big health issues 2 years ago. I suggested a certain dr that had really helped me out and she immediately said “no, I don’t want to have to spend money on this” thankfully he put his foot down and said they’re going and he’s doing a lot better. I’m just confused as to why you’d want to show that to your family and friends. I mean even if I FELT that way I’d be embarrassed to say it in front of family. At my bridal shower (2 years ago) she was talking loudly about how her dad is the best man in the world and how her husband just isn’t quite that. My in laws never put that kind of pressure on us to feel like they’re the best people in the world. Anyone else have any idea what my hubby and I should do... do we leave it alone or stand up for that poor guy.