VERY painful sex, please help!!!!!

I have been sexually active for 9 years. I have been with the same man for 5 years. I have never had pain with sex or any problems. My man is very well endowed & it’s always been a little difficult at first to get it in but never any pain.

Besides the occasional rough sex which has bruised my opening & I have had little rips before.

A few months ago, it hurt when he stuck it in, not bad but it hurt! It’s never hurt. Kind of felt like he ripped me. It was just my opening.

Well every time we had sex, it did this, if we had sex more than once (which we usually do) it would hurt worse. Keep in mind we have been together FIVE years, nothing is different.

Well as time kept passing, the pain got worse & worse!!!! ONLY when he stuck it in, once he got past my opening, it was fine & felt great!

I can only explain this pain as getting ripped, the pain you get in your stomach after a dick accidentally hits/enters your asshole, & the “ring of fire” women describe when giving birth. It literally feels like all of that & makes me sick to my stomach & cry. Once it felt like someone had a knife slitting my vag open a million times, that’s how bad the pain has got.

It hurts if I sit down wrong for days after, like 2-3 days! If I push going to the bathroom, wipe & hit that spot, wash in the shower/bath, like it is SO bad!!

So I go to the health department for my annual, I didn’t have a set OBGYN, the woman said to use lube.

Well, that’s not a problem! I am wet, we have used lube, even numbing anal lube to help the pain.

I went to an OBGYN, who used a Q tip to press & see where I was hurting.. he said it was my hymen. He said there’s a disease or something where women’s hymenal rings get inflamed & cause them LOTS of problems BUT physically I am fine so it’s not that!

He said he doesn’t know why it’s hurting me like that & to use a hydrocortisone cream to see if it will overtime fix it, I guess kind of numb or harden it? Idk 🤷🏼‍♀️ & if that doesn’t work, he can CUT, yes CUT my hymen OFF & sew me back up!! Y’all!!!!!! HELLLLL NOOO!!!!!

So I got some of that cream & some zinc oxide cream for relief of skin irritations, rashes, chafing, etc. I honestly feel like the zinc ointment helps my vag heal faster, as in it doesn’t hurt for days after. The first day of using it, the pain subsides. But I am STILL having problems.

I have done research & found these...

I feel like I should go to another OBGYN & get a second (or third in my case) opinion. This has NEVER happened in my 9 years of being sexually active.. NEVER happened in the 5 years of having sex with the SAME man! I don’t understand why this is happening & I HATE it!!!

Any opinions, advice, anyone else have this problem or similar??