Weird question.. for moms and women ttc?

Question

Have you ever worried before having kids or after that if you and your significant other didn’t work out that you won’t be able to find someone who wants to be with a single mother and you’ll be alone.. 
My husband is the greatest man I’ve ever met, I do not think we will split up and everything is great BUT life happens and you really never know.. people don’t stay together anymore. Anything could happen in the future.
Anyways we have been ttc for 9 cycles now. I can’t help but have this worry that if we have a baby that means he is the only man I’ll ever be with if we were to split up for at least while the kid/kids are young Women my age (24)  husbands (30) don’t really care if guys have kids.. but guys care if women have kids.. my husbands brother told me over the holiday (he’s also 30) that he was kinda digging this girl from work but that she has a 4 year old so it’s unlikely he will pursue her at all. And that just made me sad.. like I think it’s good of him to not involve himself with her if he isn’t ready to be involved with her child as well but idk. Got me thinking.. he’s not the first guy I’ve heard that from..it’s just kinda the norm. It’s hot when guys are good single dads but it’s not hot to be a single mom.. I’m always hearing guys not care to pursue women if they have children.. if my husband and I split up he gets to continue his life and love life but I’ll be alone. 
Just wondering and curious if other women worry or have worried about this.

Answer

Personally, I think that's the chance you take. There are no guarantees in life. I think as women we put a lot of faith into our marriages by having kids. That's what it's about though. So always work at keeping your marriage on track and on what will make you happy as an individual and as a couple. No sense dwelling on the negative. Being a single parent myself, I can tell you that there are lots of men that would happily date a woman with kids so just enjoy your life where it is and with your husband and marriage.

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Depends what kind of single mom you are. Will you start drinking to dull the pain? Constantly berate your ex? Drag every new guy into your pit of depression? Or will you still be happy? Sense of humor when things go wrong? A positive example? That's what guys are looking for. It doesn't matter to most of them if you have kids really as long as you're a nice person. There's a lot of mean single women without kids too. I wouldn't worry about it.

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I think thats the chance you take when bringing a child into the world. I personally know my husband engaged in relationships with plenty of single mothers prior to him and I dating.. my husband is good with kids and wasn't the type to  dismiss a woman due to the fact that she had a child or not. But we have both discussed as parents that if, in the event we found ourselves single after having children (prior to having a baby) that we both weren't interested in or concerned with seeking a relationship as our primary concern would be in raising our child and we wouldn't bring outsiders into that dynamic until they were out on their own.

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This was a fear of mine when I was ttc because I'm the type of person who thinks of the future and for some reason play unrealistic scenario in my head that were driving me insane to the point I just sat down with my husband and I told him and first he laughed 😑 at my crazy unrealistic scenarios and then reassured me that it will never happen (we been together for 13 yrs) but in my head it could happen and now I have my 10 yr old and 2 month baby girl and were are goin strong so I just think it's a fear that we have but we have to conquer this fear or else we wont be able to move forward and if my mom could find a man having 6 kids and is 20 yrs younger then her and he madly loves her and her kids who says we cant lol yes theres guys who dont want a women with kids but theres also women who dont want men with kids because they dont want to he dealing with baby mama drama you know so dont let this hold you back from ttc

Weird question.. for moms and women ttc?

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