What to do when the attention is no longer reciprocated?

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Been dating this guy for the last 2 months. Things started off hot and heavy. He text all day, every day. I got the good morning texts AND the good night texts. It suddenly died down on his end, like a damn switch got pulled about 3 weeks ago. (He blames it on stress and being busy but he's been on vacay for the holidays so that's bs at this point) 
I just feel like I initiate everything at this point. Texts, phone calls, visits, dates, sex. He doesn't seem real excited to see me anymore and he's never initiated PDA ... He's never been cold or rude. Never blown me off. Just no initiation or reassurance and frankly, I'm getting tired of this 1 way of street and feeling like I'm forcing myself on him at this point. I feel like he's seeing other people honestly, but if there is more than me then he's a master manipulator who doesn't sleep. I just don't know. Maybe he's just a stupid guy living in lala land thinking everything is cool.
What would y'all do? How would you handle it? Am I over reacting?

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End it now.

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I would say that you should talk to him first. Communication should always be the first thing you do. He might just be getting too comfortable and not realize what you need from him. Let him know that you’ve been feeling a bit neglected and let him know the things you need from him in order to make that better. If he’s not willing to do it, or things don’t go back to the way they were before when you were happy, then move on.

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I had exactly the same thing happen to me a few years ago. ...that’s was the last time I let someone do that to me. 
Every guy I had been involved with short term and long term had always blown hot and cold. ...I let it control me and it made me feel like I was never good enough for them. I became totally insecure. The last time was 3 years ago. 
A month after that, I met my current fella. 
We text every day for 2 weeks and our phone calls were hours long. 
After our first date, which was the best date ever, he just went cold on me. I was doing all the chasing! ...so I stopped! I stopped texting him and I didn’t call him. I decided that if I didn’t hear from him again, then that was it. I was done this time. I wasn’t going through all that again. 
Anyway, a week later, on the Morning after my mum’s 60th birthday party, he text me out of the blue and he asked to see me again. 
So reluctantly I agreed to go. One last chance and if he blew cold on me again after that, then he wasn’t getting another chance!! 
Lucky for me though he didn’t blow cold on me again and we’re still together now. 3 years almost! He definitely made up for it and did a lot more of the chasing from then on. 
I’ve told him since that he nearly blew it at the start. I told him everything and he was mortified! ...he said he didn’t want to come across like some kind of needy stalker blowing up my phone all the time and that was all. If he’d known he was coming across uninterested then he’d not have left it a whole week to get in touch. (Men can be so dumb sometimes🙄) 
So, i think it’s sometimes best to walk away with your head high and be prepared for it to be over. 
If that shocks them into action, then great 👍🏼 
but if someone isn’t prepared to put the work in at the start of a relationship, then they aren’t really that into you and aren’t worth your time or effort. ...you’re worth way more than that! 
While you’re wasting time being dangled on a string by someone who’s not that bothered, you could be missing out on the chance of meeting the love of your life! 
People will only treat you the way that you allow them to. The moment you decide ‘NO MORE!’ 
Is when you’ll see a change in what comes your way! Never, EVER settle for 2nd best! ❤️

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Pull back. Stop being the first to initiate things and if he doesn’t snap back and realize that he’s missing you then I’m sorry to say he’s no longer interested and you should end it. But sometimes it really does help to make yourself less available and give the other person space.

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I’d end it- if he notices just tell him
“I’m not longer feeling this, our energy’s are not meant for one an other” 
Don’t waste time on someone who doesn’t see the value you bring to their life!

What to do when the attention is no longer reciprocated?

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