Hubby stuck on having anal sex making me annoyed🤨

For the last 5 months every time my husband and I have sex he ask if we can do anaul I keep sayin no then one time I gave in I let him try n it was a big Nono after that ever since I been stuck on no recently he asked n I told him I’ll let if n only if he’d let me try it with a dildo n it was a hell no with like a firm attitude with it n it upseted me cuz well it’s appears that option is not even on the table for him but he assumes I’m just happy to have a dick up my butt :/ any options just felt like venting cuz I don’t know how to discuss how I feel to him with out exploding.