BFN 10 dpo 😩

Hey guys so today I tested at 10 dpo and I got a bfn.. a little back story me and my best friend got pregnant in 2018 a month apart and we both lost our babies.. she decided she didn’t want to get pregnant and I decided I wanted to keep trying.. long story short today she got her BFP......why is it that the ones who want babies have a harder time.. I know I still have a period to miss but I’m just praying that I am pregnant too 😔🙏🏼🙏🏼