I’m in a serious committed relationship with a sex addict. It is soooo challenging and I cannot tell you how many times I’ve been a breathe away from giving up on him. When I first meet him his urges controlled his life. But I loved him from day one and felt like I could help.

So we work through his urges on a day to day basis. He knows if he needs to he can call me to talk it out no judgment. That has been a huge factor in him not partaking in risky behavior.

I know it has helped him tremendously to be able to communicate with me. We’ve actually gotten it to where he’s understanding his urges, understanding how his actions effect his family, and how he can cope differently.

The problem is now that he’s learning to cope he has zero sex drive. He said now that he’s processing all of this he doesn’t want it anymore. I’m supportive but it is a difficult new challenge. (When he does feel like it he cums very quickly. Which for him is an indication that he has not had sex).

My biggest fear now is a relapse addicts usually do eventually. And I’m afraid his sharp drop in libido may eventually be a bad thing. I try to stimulate him as much as he’s comfortable with but I’m not sure if that helps.

Anyone else deal with this and if so how do you help your other half? Or maybe have advice?

Edit: I will not respond to nor entertain negativity. If you choose to leave an unkind response you will be muted and ignored. Just know that your bullying behavior will not get a rise from me and you’re better off getting a hobby.