Single mom dating

My boyfriend of three years sometimes complains about me only spending nights with him when my daughter is with her father. But my thing is,

- I can’t just leave her with my mom every weekend to sleep over with him.

-sometimes she flat out says no and judges me which makes me even more uncomfortable with asking her to watch my daughter so I can go out. I honestly would rather not but I’ve asked a few times because I don’t want to upset him.

I don’t mind him spending time with my daughter, he has many times, during the day. The issue is sleeping over night. Which is something I can’t bring her for. Or to the bar that we go to. Or keeping her out in the middle of the night.

It’s not like I’m saying I can only come out on these days just to be difficult. I spend the night with him when my daughter is with her father because that’s what I feel comfortable with as a mother when it comes to sleeping over or us hanging out late.

I wouldn’t mind doing things during the day on the weekend. I just don’t like leaving her with my mom over night. Especially when I already have two days during the week when she’s with her dad and I’m able to freely sleep over with him.

I just need some advice. I don’t want him to think I’m not flexible. But I still have what I’m comfortable with as a mother. I’ve expressed this to him but I think he can’t relate . He has no children and probably has dated or been around people who dropped their kids off with people a lot. So I think he’s then looking at me like, people do it all the time so why can’t you. Sort of thing. I just need some advice please.

Edit: I’m in college and live with my parents. He can’t sleep over. I’m 27 he’s 29. In case anyone asks age.