Out of solutions...

A disabled family member moved in with my husband and I on a temporary basis awhile back. Initially, it was fine, it was going to be a few months for a therapy treatment, and then go from there. Well, 3 months turned to 6 months.... 6 months turned into a year, and now it’s been just over a year that this family member has been living with us.

We live in a small older townhome, the walls are VERY thin, so there is zero privacy for anyone. There has been A LOT of developing friction and resentment between my husband and I, and the whole situation. We have almost no intimacy, whereas we used to be intimate on a daily basis. Not to mention, we had just had a baby as well when this family member had moved in. Baby is now 16.5 months old, and of course, young children are a whole ‘nother ballgame on their OWN.

The logical and seemingly obvious solution is to have the family member move out, but as it stands, there is nowhere for them to go. (They need a lot more treatment/therapy etc, as well as find a way to be able to financially support themselves) We’ve tried weekends and short bits of time away, but that only does so much. We need to be able to just be a family again, my husband, baby, and I, with no other people.

It’s really gotten to the point where it’s affecting my marriage quite badly and I’m at a giant loss... any advice would help. There seems to be literally no current solution to this situation.

There aren’t any available public services, no other family, and we can’t afford to move to a bigger home. Please help.