Is this rape?

so about a year ago I was dating this guy, and we were sitting on his couch in his basement about 3 months into the relationship; we were watching tv and kissing/making out a little. and he decides to start touching me “down there” and stuff which I was okay with, but then he pulled down my leggings and everything and i shake my head no multiple times trying to get my leggings back up, but he is literally on top of me so i can’t, and then he just goes right in, he was inside me without a condom on, but he didn’t finish, he just got back off of me and went to the bathroom. while he was in there i started crying because i really didn’t want him to do it but I didn’t try to stop him as much as i could. he came back out and saw me crying, he told me “all girls do it after the first time” and that confused me because that didn’t make sense. if the girl wanted to do it, why would she be upset afterwards? is that rape?