What are peoples views on dummies

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I personally would prefer not to give my baby girl a dummy when she is born i would like to try her without, i have dummies on stand by incase she needs one but i dont want to put one in her mouth at the first sign off her being upset or unsettled, i am sick of people trying to tell me this that and the next thing about my baby and what she will and wont need when she is born, do you guys think im being selfish by not wanting to take their advice? I would prefer her to self soothe, and if she is struggling then fair enough i will be more than happy to give her a dummy, i would prefer her to have another kind if comforter such as a blanket or a soft teddy, im not here to be judged i was just looking for other mummy's oppinions on this situation, and also how long would you leave it until giving your baby a dummy if they are unsettled  after birth? I am 21 will be 22 by the time i have her and i just feel as if people are judging me on being a young mother, yes i have a lot to learn but i am not a silly little girl with no clue, my self and my partner have been together almost 6 years, we are engaged and have a house together, this pregnancy was also planned! Not that unplanned pregnancies are unwanted im not one ti judge people on how their pregnancy happened ect, i just feel like so many people look at me and think she hasnt got a clue and its actually really starting to bother me and feel like people are just trying to bring me down which i do not need at 5 weeks away from having my baby🙄, we know how we want to bring our baby girl up and feel as if already people are not going to respect our wishes and do other wise if they have her with them ect, its so hard to put your foot down and tell people no! Especially when its family members, im also a great beleiver of not waking a sleeping baby and would prefer for people not to pick her up fir a hold if she is sleeping, if she is due a feed ect then they can hold her, do you think that is being selfish aswell? I feel like people are going to think that im a bitch and i know i need to remember we are her parents and we get to decide but i feel like people are making me feel ad if im doing wrong or going to be doing wrong when she is born and its really starting to wear me down😢xx

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I don’t plan on it, but sometimes plans don’t always go accordingly lol. If I had to I’d take it away before her first birthday. But again, I don’t plan on it & I hope I can stick to that plan.
I can’t stand when people give advice like you’re supposed to take it or else. You are mom, mom knows best. That’s it, whether they agree with your opinion or not. You have the right to parent HOW you want & how you see fit. 
Don’t stress other people, especially the veteran moms who see your age as some type of right to judge you!

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I used them with my first. And will offer with the second. I’m fine with them using them and would prefer them not to use me as a pacifier. Especially now that I have a 2.5 year old I can’t be strapped to my couch with a baby on my boob 24/7. 
It’s up to you if u want to use them or not

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I completely agree with everything you say. Babies don’t NEED dummies, there are definitely other ways a baby can be soothed and also it can be hard to wean a baby off a dummy as they get to rely on it. Don’t let anyone make you doubt yourself it’s your baby and not theirs. Listen to whatever advice they have to give by all means. Doesn’t mean you have to do what they say though. I also agree on not picking up the baby when he/she is sleeping. I will be telling people that with my baby. There is no need to unsettle a sleeping baby. It’ll just make them miserable and bad tempered and it’s us the parents that have to deal with it, stand your ground

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With my first she didn’t get a paci/ dummy till we had already established breastfeeding. We only really gave it to her cause she got sick and wouldn’t sleep. We took the paci away at 1 years old and never looked back. 
My husband doesn’t want to use one with our second and i understand, but I do have a few just in case and it’s also proven to help prevent SIDS, so I’m not completely opposed to using them if needed. 
You’re not selfish, don’t use them if you don’t want to. It’s not cruel and people who say so are rude. Be flexible with yourself and do what feels right.

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I did not use a pacifier.  Also did not really swaddle. My baby was really good at self soothing early and I found by not swaddling she was actually way more secure early on the pacifier was just not an issue. I may use one this time as I am lot more lazy 😂😂
I think you do what you want with your baby and let others feel how they want. I used the cry it out method.  I sleep train early on and it all went fine. My kid is 17 now and none of the colleges she has applied to have mentioned that I shouldn’t have let her cry sometimes 🤷🏼‍♀️
Do what’s right for you. I see so many new mommies drive them self crazy trying to do what other mommies tell them. My kid is a teenager and you know what... 
She doesn’t care about any of that stuff. She still likes me ❤️❤️

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I think people should respect your decision if you don’t wanna give her one then that’s your choice no one else’s !

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I’m planning on offering the boob, not a pacifier. Pacifiers were made to replicate breasts, so I figure I’ll just go with the original lol. I do have a couple pacifiers just in case though. Infants are incapable of self-soothing so it all depends on what you want to try to help soothe her.

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I did not offer my daughter a pacifier until she was close to 6 weeks, I think, and I’m so glad I waited. She learned how to self soothe, and by the time she got to daycare a couple of months later, she was never dependent on it. She’d take it occasionally, but she didn’t need it. I think she was completely uninterested in it by 7 months. She’s now two and a half years old and there is a boy in her daycare who has a pacifier constantly in his mouth. And I’ve heard horror stories from friends with older kids about their struggles trying to get their kids off the pacifier, or even just trying to get kids (not babies!) to sleep without it.
We won’t offer a pacifier initially with this baby either.

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I’m not buying any dummies and I’m hoping I won’t need one. Don’t listen to anyone else but yourself. Listening to advice is fine but you don’t need to act on it. I’m sick of people saying “oh my baby didn’t sleep” “oh my baby wouldn’t go in a cot” well guess what people MINE will do as she’s told and she will be very much loved by her mummy and daddy and what they choose to do. Xx

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I’m gonna just keep the ones the hospital provides just Incase, but usually my kids have never liked pacifiers. My second baby was the only one who took it for 2 months, but that’s because she was fussy from being limited food in the NICU (gut probs). But after she came home and was allowed more bottle she could care less about the pacifier lol

What are peoples views on dummies

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