Friends with ex wife????

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So my wife and I got divorced. Only together 2 years and basically got married because of our daughter. 
The woman I’m dating now moved to Chicago to be with me. I moved her right in with me and my daughter (50/50 custody). 
My daughters mom and I talk about our kid throughout the week. We want to be friends, I grew up with divorced parents who were cool with each other and it was really nice. 
We do one birthday for my daughter with both families - my girlfriend hates it and says that she has to “share me” with my ex..
We invited my ex over for dinner the weekend before Christmas to see our daughter because I had her for over a week including Christmas Day- My girlfriend was extremely upset and still argues with me about it today. 
My girl wants me to have basically no contact with my ex unless it’s an emergency about our daughter. 
She says I put my ex first in everything but I never do.. my ex is close to hating me because I choose my girlfriend in every situation and it makes things difficult. 
She hates my ex wife even though my ex has tried to be her friend...
My ex has not always been great, she’s done some shitty things- but then again I’ve also done shitty things and my girlfriend has done shitty things so everyone has fault. 
The difference is that my ex and myself are always ready to forgive and forget and move on and my girlfriend holds a grudge and never let’s go or forgives. 
Am I doing something wrong? Or is she wrong?

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Sounds like she doesn't support your co-parenting. If she can't respect the fact that your ex will always be a part of your life because you share a child together, she's not the one for you.

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sounds like you need to find a new girlfriend

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Your girlfriend needs to understand that your daughter and her well being come first, which also comes with the ex wife being in both of your lives as your daughters mum. She sounds threatened or maybe insecure about it tbh. She knew what she was getting into moving into your home.

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She doesn't seem like she is ready to be with someone who has a kid or kids.... Very insecure and kind of jealous it seems..  I'd say your daughter doesn't need the toxic crap. I'd cut her out.

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You aren’t doing anything wrong. I don’t think anything is wrong wanting to be friends with your ex wife. Most of the things you seem to do is for your daughter anyways. 
Just sounds like your new girlfriend has issues with her out of pure jealousy imo, don’t stop being friends with her just because your girlfriend says. If she continues acting like that then maybe you need to find someone who’s understanding.

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If you date someone with a child that’s what you have to deal with.  Child comes first.  If she’s not okay with that then tell her to leave.

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I mean  she doesnt have to like it .. but she needs to respect that you have a child .. maby she is uncomfortable.  Maby you can talk to her to make it more comfortable for everyone .....

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she's crazy. 
I'm sorry I wish every divorced couple do what you do for your children. you and your ex are showing such love and caring for your children by being a family even though your not. your putting your child first. I know parents like that and it's awesome. I even have another friend who will babysit for her husband's ex's new children to show them that yes because they are siblings they should be together. 
I once saw two cars pull up in a parking lot a few spaces away from each other and the kids had to run between cars to communicate. it made me so sad to see the child have to be the adult in that situation. 
your girlfriend needs to grow a little and suck it up.

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She's wrong. 
If she isn't okay with you wanting to put your daughter first (because having a good co parenting relationship is only doing what's best for your daughter and putting her best interest first) then it seems like she has no business being in the relationship 
There are plenty of exs out there who do the bare minimum and make the split rough for their children, your girlfriend is more than welcome to go out and find one of them if that's what she wants to see. 
She should be supporting you. It's absolutely wonderful when parents can put thier feelings aside and try and be friends for the good of their children. What your doing is showing your daughter that you'll do whatever it takes to make sure she's happy and comfortable with both parents. Shell grow up seeing a wonderful example from you and your ex. And in general, there are a lot of great benefits from having parents who continue working together for the kids after a split 
Continue working together with your ex. Don't let your girlfriend get in the way of the best interest of your kid. If she doesn't like what you want to do for your child, show her the door

Friends with ex wife????

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