I'm polish he is nigerian....im sooooo fustrated and angry and i need to take it out!!!!

PLEASE BEAR WITH ME IS A LONG ONE!!

when we got married i was just happy to marry him and i would have done anything but now i feel he is taking advantage...

we said that if we have children his mum will help us because she is widower and can stay ...agreed!!

but now i see she is a actual NIGHTMARE !!!!

when i gave birth she came to help me but not with what i need but with what she wants...

my day starts like this;

we wake up, she takes baby and bath her while i make her breakfast(mother inlaws breakfast) ...after i start cleaning and she takes baby and stays with her(i did breastfeed so i had her when i breastfeed) ..afternoon i make lunch for her and me.....evening i make dinner for everyone. if i dont ask what she wants to eat is "disrespectful "....when i see her i have to greet her so she can hear me otherwise is "disrespectful " and tells me off to my husband...she makes us long lists with what she wants to eat, wear and things she needs even though we are on a budget but my husband doesn't want to tell her no cause "she suffered for her children and now we suffer for her" ....she is the most rude and off telling woman ever, i can't stand her, in fact I hate the life out of her ...my husband always has her side when she causes fights because she tells me off almoust always ...

"in nigeria we dont do this things"

"in nigeria you dont see this"

"in nigeria we dont allow this"

"you came into my family not me in yours"

I told him i dont need her here so long and just because i say so he says "then i will make sure she will come, just because of what you said"cause she stays like 5-6 months and he thinks i do it on purpose and can't understand why i am like this and can't respect his mum(i want to soo bad but i can't)

he says that if he has to choose between me and her he will always choose her but one time we where watching a movie and said "if someone puts a gun to my mum's head to find out where you are i would let them kill her" , is not something i should be happy to hear but it was soothing to hear ....i am in constant stress and i told him i need help because i feel alone and i think im going in depression but he dosent believe me, i have no familly here only his one....his brothers wife was talking to me one day and i broke down in front of her(even though he warned me not to trust her) and she said" if my husband would behave like this i would not take half of what you take" ...and she said she will speak to her husband to talk to his brother( my husband) ...

anyone in a mixed race family and has problems and can give advice?