Baby mama drama?

Question

So I’m trying to figure out if this is something I should be concerned about or make an issue. 
My current bf has two children by two different women. His oldest is from someone he got pregnant as a teen who is now married with more kids and really doesn’t contact him. His youngest was planned and by a woman who currently is single. He has talked about her in a way that insinuates that he wants nothing to do with her but occasionally he will post a picture of his daughter and the baby mother that the mother sends him. So far this has occurred three times and I’m starting to wonder if this is something I should worry about. I have no problem with a healthy coparenting relationship, in fact I respect that a lot. But I am just wondering if her sending pics with herself in them means more. Also, he does not post us, which is fine. I don’t post him either lol. But seeing him post an ex has me a little uneasy. Just want to see what others think, I’m hoping to be seen as irrational for even caring. 
* and he doesn’t ever post his other daughter, and made a snotty comment about her mother sending pics with her and the daughter in it. This is something that also bothers me because it doesn’t seem like he treats both kids the same. I know that’s not my business, but as someone who dealt with that as a child, it bothers me to know that.

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God forbid he actually has respect for his child’s mother... it’s literally a pic of mother and child. What’s so wrong or suspicious is that? Doesn’t mean he wants something more from that relationship. Maybe he just likes the pic lol. He probably just has a different kind of relationship with that child’s mother compared to the other one.

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This can really go either way. I get the treating the children differently is bothering you. So, I'll tell you my story on that involving my husband and 2 of his ex's. 1st is ex wife. They have a child together. She cheated on him, treated him like shit (he wasn't any better in how he treated her), and after the split, she put him on child support (he agreed to it happily) but made it where he can only see their son at her discretion. Meaning if he's single and she wants to hook up, he can see him. When i got with him, she blocked him on Facebook and Instagram. I told him that we should split so he can see his son. He said nope. There's no relationship there because she's petty and will only send pics if he's single. She hadn't even let him see their son in person for 3 or more years! 
2nd ex was an ex girlfriend. Methhead. No joke. So they had a son together. She was on drugs the whole time she was pregnant so he went through withdrawal as a newborn, which resulted in my husband getting full custody. In order to see their son, she had to be clean (drug test in front of judge) and contact the court to set up supervised visits. She has another child (daughter) that she's treated like gold (for the most part). She hasn't seen my bonus boy in 5 years now. She signed her rights over. She lost rights to her daughter, but that's a cps case. My husband unfortunately treats the children differently, but it's based on circumstances. He does speak ill of both of them (never in front of the children tho), so idk. 
The 1 time in the past 5 years BM#2 saw my bonus boy, she posted pics of her with him pretending to be a good mom (it was a cps visit since she had an open cps case on her daughter). He liked the picture on Facebook. I was upset because i wasn't thinking clearly. He didn't like it because it's her. He liked it because he was giving her the chance (highly supervised and we didn't see her) to be a mom and get clean. He liked it because our son was smiling! I talked to him about it and he explained it to me. He blocked her shortly after due to some messages she sent... She sent letter from jail as well professing her love for him yet never mentioning they had a child together 💁😂 
I can understand why you feel that way. You have every right to be upset. You need to talk to him tho. Ask him why he posts the pictures with her. I'm hoping it's just an innocent posting based on the child being in them and not because of the mom. I would flip if he was posting pics of just the mom... Also, as far as mom goes, i can't speak for her, but i have seen some baby mamas who only send pics of the kiddos with themselves and never alone. Why? So they can show how "bad" the dad is or so deadbeat dads can't pretend to be good parents. Talk to him tho. See if he can get some pictures of just the kiddo to post. I would also advise that maybe you both take a great pic together and post it. Not saying he's cheating, I'm just thinking that may ease some of the feelings. Good luck!

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Okay I know you all are defending him posting a picture BUT it’s not like this is a one time occurrence where the picture was super great. This is a reoccurring thing. I get coparenting but is it that necessary to post pictures of your ex and child but none of your relationship OR other child? 
That being said- when you came into the relationship did you know they were close friends still? Or was this something that arose after you got together? I’ve seen the comments of if he wanted her, he’d be with her but sometimes the ex only wants you when you are moved on SO you never really know. 
My spouse has a child from a previous relationship and they co parent now that doesn’t mean they are best friends but they can talk at pick up and drop offs and be kind to each other or doing birthdays together for their son, or if she ever has a question or has something to tell him concerning their son, she can call and she knows that but he ain’t posting pictures of her and his son and I feel like if he did that often I would have a problem with it especially if he didn’t post one of our child or of our relationship... that’s kinda odd to me and you said ex number one doesn’t bug him much so why would he treat her worse then ex number two? Especially if there isn’t drama there?

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I think you're reading more into it than than is actually there. Anyone who knows him should know the reality of his relationships.

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It sounds like he just gets along better with the baby mama he posted. I personally wouldn't worry about it. But I can see why him treating the kids different would bother you...it's not right, especially if he just does it because he doesn't like her mother.

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I wouldn’t like that. I would tell him to crop her out and just post the child. Or have him tell her if she can send him pics with only the child in it. But that’s just me. 🤷🏼‍♀️

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