I don’t think it should hurt

Why do people always say love hurts. If someone loves you wouldn’t they try their hardest to Not Hurt you... or to adjust themself into thinking I don’t wanna lose this person so I have to make sure I’m right for them. I don’t understand that shit. My bf has hurt me in the past (he hasn’t cheated but he’s compared me to his ex MULTIPLE TIMES which have made me very Insecure & I have compared myself to her pics wondering where I’ve went wrong etc) & even tho I’m getting over it sometimes I think about it like WTF. I should’ve left sooner. Last time he did this was literally New Year’s Day. Anyway I think about it and start resenting him again I start hating him for putting me in that spot and he says he’s done it out of anger when we argue he wants nothing to do with that girl at all & how they haven’t spoke since we’ve been together. Bla bla but I just look at it like do you not have any self control... I don’t get it. No relationship is perfect but why tf would u want to hurt someone u love. He’s told me he did it to hurt me cause I made him angry. It still comes back and I think omg he rlly put me in a position to compare myself to his ex. So I found myself literally stalking her and wondering what does she have that I don’t. He tells me he loves me and he didn’t mean those things at all (he’s done it a lot) but he’s trying to change and doesn’t wanna hurt me again. But who knows what he’ll say against me in the next argument. Guys act like they have no control I just can’t seem to forgive him for that no matter how much I try. I love him and when we’re good we’re perfect but when I get flash backs of the things he’s said I literally hate him.