I’m 40 and lost my baby last night at the emergency room at 8 weeks 3 days. I was already feeling devastated when my ob came in and told me that basically he’d ‘already told me that at this age it probably wasn’t a viable pregnancy to begin with’. Then said that if I wanted, he could give me info on adoption and offered me birth control! I think he then realized (because crying) I obviously wanted this baby badly and said if I ‘keep trying these things will keep happening and just get worse with age’, and then offered me birth control again!

I asked him if I could have lost the baby due to hormones, and he said no, that doesn’t happen, and that the baby had to have been abnormal from the start.

Im definitely going to a different doctor from now on, but he’s left me feeling so sad and confused. Can I still have a baby? Am I setting my self up for failure if I keep trying? Will I keep miscarrying? Any suggestions?