How to tell the truth

I met this guy over a year ago. We went on three dates when we first started talking. I had just left my abusive ex and was just trying to get out. He tried to initiate sex on the third date but knowing I’d been having sex with another person I declined and left. I broke it off with him a week later because I was still hung up on my ex and also he asked me to be his girlfriend three dates in which was a red flag (plus somehow he knew my work address which I never told him where I worked just my profession to send my flowers after our second date). I was casually seeing another guy I felt I had a better connection so I did what I felt was right. He was very emotional over it and blocked me and we moved on. I got back together with my ex instead of pursuing a guy who was in my opinion worth it 🤦‍♀️ we broke up again and I finally knew my worth to stay away.

Fast forward (here’s where I’ll get hate comments) the guy I broke it off with comes back to text to be friends which is fine. We got along great as friends. We hang out and it’s obvious he wants more than friendship. We start going on dates and the whole time I’m so happy to have a guy who is sweet and really treats me right. He can never get it up for sex because he gets so nervous. It starts to annoy me even though it just means he goes down on me even on his birthday with nothing in return. I start questioning if I truly like him or if I just like being pampered. My feelings aren’t strong. He asks me again to be his girlfriend. I say I’m not ready to commit. We fall out when I start prepping to move, we get together one last time and I explain I’m moving and he’s great and I want to stay in contact. We try to have sex one last time and he just ends up crying because he doesn’t want me to move and tells me he loves me. I tell him my feelings are not there. I move across the country and he starts saying I love you and calling me babe and acting like we are dating. He sends me a valentines gift saying I’m the best woman in the world and he’s so lucky to have me. I’m over here like uh I didn’t agree to date you. It’s making me uncomfortable. I want to tell him I’m not interested and I’d like to not feel like his girlfriend because I told him I’m not. It’s clear to me now I don’t have feelings romantic or sexual for him. I’ve met a guy here casually I’d love to lock down but now I feel like I’m cheating all over again. How do I tell him I’m not interested in a kinder way? I could blast him and be rude but I don’t want to be unkind to someone who has been endlessly kind to me during the tough times of getting over my ex. I understand people will hate me for stringing him on but I did communicate where I was and he did not take it to heart. This is all recent I wasn’t trying to string him along it’s just I realize the communication did not go the way I wanted it to. He just took it as I would stay single and be with him I guess. I can’t figure him out. He’s really clingy and I’m just over it. I won’t ghost him he doesn’t deserve that. He also doesn’t deserve unkind words. I’ve been trying to lessen our contact but he still says I love you to me every damn night. Help a girl out of this mess.