How can I be a parent again to a resistant teenager

I feel awful for the life my daughter has had so far. I have failed her in every way. She’s been in the custody of my great grandmother for pretty much her whole life. I was a party girl and I screwed up her life because of that. I would visit every now and then but I wasn’t a parent. My great grandmother is disabled and she wasn’t even an adequate guardian for her. She’s basically raised herself. But I got married and my husband and I have really cleaned up our act. We have a baby on the way and I now have legal and physical custody of my daughter. She’s 14. She understandably does not like me very much. She isn’t used to being told when to be home and what to do and when. She isn’t a bad kid, but she likes to do her own thing. I don’t know how to parent her when I haven’t for her whole life. She doesn’t respect me and I don’t even really blame her. She doesn’t like any of us or talk to any of us. She’ll answer questions when asked, but not in depth and she doesn’t offer to make conversation either. I hope someone has some advice for me