Leaving marriage for financial reasons

A lot of people talk about staying in a marriage for financial reasons... I want to know if anyone has ever or would ever LEAVE for financial reasons. I feel like I cannot afford to stay with my husband.

Let me try to lay it out concisely.

My husband consistently spends our kids daycare money on other things... I don’t know what, he just leaves with the money and never gives it to the daycare. So I have to figure out where to get that money again.

Similarly, if he runs out of spending money he will take it from our Bills account. Again, we end up overdrafting (everything is auto pay) and I have to figure out where the money will come from to make it up.

He took $4000 out of our savings last summer and I still don’t know why - he refuses to discuss it.

He has not once put money into savings.

When we have extra expenses, he asks us to split it. Everything we have in savings is from me.

About half the time I end up paying for groceries out of my account because he spends his entire paycheck before I make it to the store.

Etc etc etc

Things I have tried:

- our debit accounts are separate and our bank automatically transfers what’s needed to a 3rd account (he just takes it back tho)

- he can no longer access any of our savings accounts

- I have talked to him endlessly about it... I’ve cried, been calm, asked about therapy, followed him around town, and tried to make a budget so he has plenty of money left. Nothing has ever gotten through or had results.

We have two children who need to eat etc, so when he isn’t responsible financially I have no choice but to enable him and bail us out.

I don’t know what to do. It has made me feel trapped and resentful. I feel like he takes advantage of me. If he cared, he would change. He promises he’ll stop but will literally do it again that same day.

He doesn’t hit me and he hasn’t cheated as far as i know. He is verbally mean to me but i can handle that as long as he doesn’t talk that way to our kids. There isn’t a solid REASON to leave except that i feel like my life would be easier in many ways.

Suggestions? Should I leave him to make my financial life easier? Should I stick it out bc it’s better than being alone? Help!