So my brother in law will be proposing to his gf next month. She knows it’s happening soon and has already sent me pictures of her bridesmaid dresses and the venue and everything. They agreed that they want their wedding to be in late October/early November. Well, I’m pregnant and am due for October 14. I live closer to the west coast and they live in Tennessee. They don’t know we’re pregnant yet (we’re announcing after we get our first scan next week). Am I wrong for wanting them to change their wedding date (I mean it’s not completely set yet since they’re not even engaged yet)? I really don’t feel comfortable flying with a newborn all the way to Tennessee, especially if I have to have a c-section and will be in some pain still. I feel like I have a right to ask them to change it because we got pregnant before they got engaged...am I in the right though? Also selfishly, I’ll probably still have baby weight and will hate putting on a tight bridesmaid dress and taking a million pictures...opinions?

EDIT: okay so overall consensus says I’m wrong! I won’t be asking them to change their wedding date, thanks for your opinions...rude or not 🤷🏻‍♀️ some of y’all are really opinionated but I guess that’s what I asked for 😂

And some of you seem to be confused...they don’t have a SET wedding date yet, they’re not even engaged yet...she’s a control freak and is already “planning” it because she told him he better propose soon (and he is). I’m clearly not a fan of her. I love my brother in law, though so I don’t express my feelings about her because he seems happy. Also, she’s been “a part” of this family for a whole 8 months, I’ve been in the family for 7 years. This will be their first grandchild. If I was her, I would change it for my sister in law GLADLY because a baby is bigger than a wedding in my humble opinion...