Need help😣

So I’ve had this problem for probably about 3 years now.. I get small skin cracks in my vaginal opening after sex and have a crack above my clitoris like where the outer lips meet. I’ve tried oils, not having sex, estrogen supplements to strengthen my mucous membranes, fatty creams literally everything. I’ve been to gynecologists and sex therapists. I hate it because it’s all I think about during sex 😤 if it’s gonna hurt or if it’s already hurting.. so anyone out there who has similar problems? I’m only 22 so have not hit menopause yet🙃😂