Tell midwife I'm anxious?

Question

This is our 2nd (suprise) baby. In booking app with midwife she asks all the normal questions and asks if we're feeling over anxious. I said no all is fine but the truth is both me and my partner had a tough time looking after our first. She was a tough baby and we are worried about going through it all again.
If I tell my m/w were feeling anxious does anyone know what road that will lead us down? As in any actual help or just an extra heath visitor visit?
Thanks

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They normally will ask you some questions to help you get the best help. They might send you to a support place or give you some websites which can help you. It doesn’t mean you will need extra health visitor visits or anything unless after baby comes you are struggling then they might come once in between your schedule visits. I have anxiety mainly social anxiety and my Health visitor just asked me questions helped me and got me some support from sure start to help me deal with it and get out and about. Do you take your baby to children centres activities they are great for babies and for you to meet other parents who are struggling too.

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I just got given a number to ring if I felt like I needed to talk to someone. They didn’t do anything else - they just listened to me when I told them my worries.

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I can't help much regarding the midwife but I was in a similar position with my 2nd. My first suffered really bad with reflux so didn't sleep until she was around 1, I had a horrible both experience and not a lot of help from her dad so ended up suffering with post natal depression, I spoke to my health visitor about it when she came near the end of pregnancy and she's been extra supportive in making sure everything is okay. And just to try and reassure you, this tome round I had a super quick easy labour even though I had to be induced and the baby is an absolute angel who sleeps all the time! No 2 babies or experiences are the same so try not to worry yourself!

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I really think it’s best to be honest with the midwife - having anxiety is nothing to be ashamed of and you have every right to get as much support as you possibly can.  They may well put you in touch with groups in your area who can offer practical support for you and your husband. 
I am with the perinatal mental health team which has included many extra appointments however, to access this firstly, you have to want to have the support and secondly you have to meet quite a ridiculous threshold to be seen (I only just scraped through and I had a breakdown, spent two months in hospital (two years ago) and came off a cocktail of drugs the month before trying for my baba and I was considered borderline). 
In other words, please don’t worry about suddenly being considered high risk and never be worried about accessing the support you need. 
Good luck.

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Thank you all. I will defo mention it to the midwife. I was just worried what path it might take me down and of it involved lots of monitoring and visits.

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I have a diagnosed anxiety disorder and personally they haven’t really offered me anything as of yet 😟 hopefully your area is better than this! I’d definitely advise being open and honest with the midwife though!

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For me they just gave my number to a midwife who specialises in mental health

Tell midwife I'm anxious?

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