Pregnant, husband wants to leave for 5 days?

Question

Hey ladies,
So I am 17 weeks pregnant right now.
Husband told me he wants to go on a backpacking trip with his friends for 5 days next month (I’ll be around 22 weeks).
I know I’m still early, but the thing is I’ve miscarried twice last year. And with this pregnancy, although baby is ok, I’m dealing with some health issues. I’ve been having high heart pressure and high heart rate. I’m actually going to be on a heart monitor next week. The doctor wants to see if she can find anything wrong with my heart.
I’m nervous about the pregnancy, and told him I’d like for him to be around if something does happen.. if he backpacks, there’s no reception in the wilderness and I won’t be able to contact him.
To which he replies, if something happens I’ll find out when I get back and we can heal from it together. 
Ultimately, we had a long conversation as I am telling him my emotions and how I need his support during this time. 
He said he won’t be going on the backpacking trip, but asks when would be a good time. I told him maybe next summer when the baby turns 1.
My question is... am I being unreasonable? I don’t want to hold him back on his interests, but I’m also just uncomfortable and anxious.
Am I being a b**** about it?

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You should just wait and see how your doctor says you’re doing by then. If you’re doing fine then there’s no reason to hold him back

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Personally yes I think you are being unreasonable. I would hate to tell my husband that he couldn’t go on a trip like that just because I was feeling a bit insecure. Maybe I could understand at 35 weeks but 22 seems a bit crazy.

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If this was a boyfriend I wouldn't be surprised, but this man is your husband. Why is he acting like a child?? He's a married man and his first priority should be you and his baby. I can't deal with immaturity like this, he needs to get his crap together.

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I only read the first 2 paragraphs and dont need to read more to understand that he is a selfish arse

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I dont think your been unreasonable at all, your pregnant ad previous miscarriages and now avin a complicated pregnancy, it is completely understandable you want your partner by your side, I ad 5 miscarriages and am now pregnant with twins we developed a condition called TTTS at 17 weeks which required surgery if my husband ad said he was goin away id of gone mad there his children aswell, so you are well within your right to express you want him there

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I don’t think your being unreasonable at all. I would say wait to make a decision until after you get the results of the heart monitor and make sure you talk to your doctor closer to the time of him possibly leaving. See what they say, if they feel like it would be smart for him to stay then see what he says. However, unfortunately, you can’t predict that nothing will happen either.

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Get him to get a satellite phone?

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I mean to be honest I think he wants that last vacation before the baby comes every man does your health is important but in your heart do you feel you will be good enough to last 5days while he's away maybe have comfort of a family member

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No because I would go crazy if I couldn't talk to my husband for 5 days my anxiety would be going wild. Plus he would never plan a trip if I wasnt involved even more so if I were pregnant. Maybe it's best because hes not going to able to do that once you have kids maybe get him used to how it's going to be. Idk good luck

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Even if I had a healthy pregnancy I wouldn’t want that personally 🤷‍♀️ my husband only went for a night never far away so if I needed to go to the hospital or anything he was there.

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