Possible Pedophile?

Hello! Firstly, I wanted to apolgized for the harsh title. I didn't know what to call it.

I wanted to start out by saying that my husband and I have been a lot of hardships as children, one of them being is we were sexually assaulted as kids from people we were supposed to trust.

I've always had my reservation with men bc of my issues but nothing drastic (IMO). My husband, however, has a lot of reservations that can cause some paranoia. We were talking about the sexual assault and how there could be more pedophiles around us, such as family.

He had a lot evidence, some were kind of shady and others were a bit on a reach. I told him that a lot of the stuff is weird, but some of things I cant fully believe. I'd like to share but that's not my place to spill the beans. Anyway, I told him that he went through a lot as kid and maybe be projecting. I told him he does it to everybody, to his dad, step mom, my mom, me and others. Granted, some have a shady history but it bothered me when he confirmed he had his suspicions about me.

His evidence was:

1. A few yrs back at a new yrs party, he, my nephew (6-7) at the time, and I were playing a game of UNO. My nephew was losing or getting anxious and started rubbing my lower leg like my calf. I didnt pay much attention to it but my husband has always been bothered by it. He claims that my nephew they what he was doing (aka believe it was with sexual intentions) and that since I didnt stop it that I may have liked being touch? I told him that wasnt the case. My nephew is a kid and I HIGHLY doubt it was because he was trying to make a move. He said at that age he knew about specific touches and what he was doing. Also, I raised my nephew from literally birth to 5 yrs old. Hes just comfortable with me.

2. A few yrs ago, he and I went bowling with my family. My nieces, nephews and sisters were there. My oldest neephew (16 at the time) was there and I hadn't seen him in months. Within those months, he grew his hair out and it was curly and crazy. I was amazed by the hair that I started playing with it. Once again, husband was bothered it and brings it up. I think he believes I was flirting with my nephew? Its sickening ideas, really. I've been molested and never would want to bring that to a child and it's just disgusting behavior. Period

3. We were watching a show. I called a 10 yr old boy "cute and preppy" and another 10 yr old "a 40 yr old man". I was being a jerk in comparing them but he seemed bothered that I called the boy cute and preppy.

This is really saddening me and dont know what to do. Am I like a pedophile? I think it's all innocent but he seems pretty firm in his beliefs. It's to the point where a few days ago we were talking about what if we had another kid. I said, maybe in the future, I'd like to have a boy. He said that he wouldn't want that based off evidence 1 and 2. Also, today in our discussion of possible pedophiles in our family, he said he questions that I do with my daughter when I go my moms house. Like, we hang out with our family and have fun?!

I understand what hes been through and were he is coming from. I cant speak for others that he believes are pedophiles, but I'd at least want to clear my name. What do you guys think?