TW: assault. Any people with experience on landlord/tenant problems?

Hey there girls! If anyone has experience with law or a situation like this can you please comment some advice?

I’m not sure what to even call this but I was assaulted at my apartment the other day and need help figuring out the situation. Sorry this is kind of long but it needs the full details. If you want to skip most of it, the last two paragraphs will have the information about him assaulting me.

So the first incident occurred at almost exactly 10 minutes passed curfew. I was in my car and had just arrived home from the gym (I go after my son goes to sleep) and then the female tenant exited her apartment and quite rudely was gesturing at me. I rolled down my window to see what she was upset about and she snapped that while the music itself was not loud, she said the bass was noticeable from inside her apartment. I paused because I was taken aback by how she came at me about it, especially since it had never happened before and was literally 10 minutes passed curfew. Just an honest mistake on my part. Also by the fact my bass wasn’t even up at all since i don’t even like it. I said “okay” and rolled my window back up and went to adjust the radio. She’s had a problem with lots of things with everyone so it’s best to just keep things short and sweet.

Before I could switch to something with less base or turn my music off completely, she proceeded to walk up to my car and bang on my window. I roll my window down partially and say “you need to leave me alone”, as her behavior was becoming increasingly confrontational and was started to scare me a tad. She refused and berated me about my toddler making noises and my own footsteps during daytime, which is always several hours before curfew if it ever does happen (I’m talking like 4pm-7pm range if that, and she’s not even home until after 4pm). To try to end the conversation again, I roll my window back up and go back to what I was trying to do. Once again, she began banging on my window and I tell her this is ridiculous and to leave, which once more she refuses. For the last time, I roll it down and tell her “if you don’t leave me alone right now, I’m going to call the police.” At this point, she finally leaves..

So I tried to tell the manager about it but apparently the other tenant called the manager first and made a complaint against myself for the situation, saying she never even got close to my car or anything. She also said at one point she thought I was driving drunk that night even though I don’t drink. So then we got in trouble. I told the manager that I totally get that it was past curfew and I feel bad about that (even if it is only 10 minutes) but her banging on my window and yelling at me after I told her “okay” and to leave me alone multiple times, and having to threaten to call the police.... that’s my problem right there. The rest I understand. She literally told me she doesn’t care and that I shouldn’t even be out of my unit after 10, then interrogated me as to why I wasn’t locked inside my unit, on and on. I said maybe it would be better for me to come talk in person and see if we could communicate better and she threatened to call the police on me if I showed up because I was being threatening towards her (I’ve NEVER threatened someone like that in my life). Finally she agreed to let my fiancé go talk to her and then hired a security guard to oversee it. Like good grief. She apparently was mocking him and rolling her eyes, and being really confrontational the entire time. He was really upset when he left, and that’s saying something because he is extremely level headed, as he was a cop by trade until the last year. His best attribute was handling these situations.

So yeah, we asked to end our lease and really pushed the fact that we 100% do not feel safe on the property whatsoever because of her. Even worse, her son who is not much better. She basically has ignored almost everything we’ve had concerns about and I have to pull teeth just to get a checklist for moving out. She made it very very clear she does not care.

So we moved most of our things into my moms place until we can find somewhere else to stay. THAT is how uncomfortable we are there.

Here’s the absolute BIGGEST issue.

We have to still be in and out at times since we still have a lot of our things there. My fiancé was there for a few hours and I stopped by to talk and grab a few things. I was there maybe 5 minutes and it was WELL before any kind of curfew. So as I was leaving the same woman of course comes out and starts in on me saying I’m being loud. I was there for FIVE MINUTES and only even shut the front door once... not even like a cabinet - I didn’t even walk past the hallway. I finally lost my temper here and said “I’m so tired of you bitching at me!” Right away, her son who is an ex marine twice my size barrels out of the apartment and starts screaming at me, coming at me and saying I’m trespassing on the property since I’ve moved out (i haven’t and we’re here until the 30th). Swinging his arms around and huffing and puffing. I tried to explain we still legally lived there but they said they were calling the police to have me arrested for trespassing. So I’m started to get freaked out because they’re both coming at me, insulting me and being extremely threatening. I barely break 5 feet tall and 100 pounds and have no way to defend myself. I didn’t want to run to my car because i had to park a solid block away and he could follow me way too far away from my fiancé who was who I wanted at this point.

The problem was that you have to go up a shared staircase to get to our unit and he was purposefully blocking my way up. I was frozen and didn’t know what to besides get to my fiancé. So I tried to squeeze past him quickly and run up the rest of the stairs as i was scared enough I did want to even yell for him. Before I could make it up the rest of the way up he grabbed me and shoved me down the stairs. Thank god I’m agile so I didn’t go completely tumbling and was mostly unhurt. But I’m terrified and scramble up the stairs as he finally stepped back. I called 911 and the police came.

The only good thing about this is I whipped out my phone after she started in on me and before he came out since she’s lied so much in the past i wanted how she acting on a recording in case anything happened again. I do NOT want to get in trouble. So I actually ended up with the entire thing on video. I showed police the entire thing start to finish and they found them 100% at fault. He was cited with battery and we have to go to court.

I’ve attempted to contact the manager about the incident and was ignored over and over again. She refuses to give me contact info for anyone above her. She wont do anything (yet again) about their behavior. She still wont give me any more info about moving out or about getting our deposit back. I had to threaten legal action for her to even take my report at all!!

Is there literally ANYTHING I can do here? I want out, to not have to have a bad remark on my rental history and I definitely want my deposit back especially since our unit is absolutely immaculate. My biggest problem is I expressed concerns about safety to her, was ignored then I was battered on the property and she still refuses to do anything at all.

Anyway, thanks for reading this far if you did, and please let me know your thoughts on what to do about all of it.

Here’s screenshots of him coming after me and pushing me. The rest wasn’t caught visually since I just wanted her words heard. I lifted it up once I tried going up the stairs. I’m honestly glad I did because I think it helped me prevent further assault.