HELP how do I get my bf to have sex with me again..

I’m so over this. We have been together for two years and in the beginning obviously we fucked all the time and I know it will probably never go back to that... but having sex once a week or less, I can’t take it. Sex (when it actually happens) is always planned and scheduled that we’ll do it before bed, I can’t deal with that, that’s not how it should be. We’re just doing it because it’s been a week and I complain. We never have sex when we are actually in the mood, matter of fact he’s never really in the mood anymore. It hurts my heart cause I ALWAYS express how I feel about this situation. He tells me sex shouldn’t be that important to me and today he told me that I cared about it more than him, which was clear but like why? And hearing him say that I feel like I can’t even say anything else about it cause he already told me he doesn’t care. I don’t even know what I’m asking.. just venting I guess. I bought lingerie and he doesn’t take me seriously, I was too scared to wear it in front of him but when I told him I had it he really didn’t care, of course. I can’t do this anymore I know sex isn’t everything but I’d like to feel like he’s attracted to me in that way