Boyfriend lazy when it comes to sex?

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I understand everyone is different. I hear my friends saying oh we did it four times and I am quiet. One time is enough for him. He is very patient though and I orgasm every time we have sex. He will make sure I am also pleased. We usually have sex 2-3 times a week when we meet. He is a bit lazy though and would choose sleeping over sex but still as I said twice a week we have sex. We’ve been together for one year. It’s not like he was different in the beginning but he was more energetic. Now he falls asleep in 15 seconds. He’s also tired now got a new job...
But when I hear my friends saying we did it 3-4-5 times las night idk. 
One is enough for us. I am pleased. He is. Why am I worried idk.... I wanna talk to him because I feel we are lacking intimacy, I don’t know what to say.

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Stop comparing your life to your friends’ lives.

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Sounds like you're a bit needy tbh. 2 or 3 times a week is a very good amount! Just wait and see how much it dwindles if yall have kids or both work long hours! Then you'll also choose sleep over sex. It's not unheard of

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I don’t understand how he’s being lazy. If both of your needs are being met, there’s no problem. Stop comparing your relationship to others.

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I've always  wondered about people who claim multiple  rounds ( 3+) in a few hours time.  Or like folks who say they were at it all night 🤔
It seems humanly  impossible  unless youre on drugs or an insane aphrodisiac.  
Point is, if youre  both pleased, relax. And stop talking about sex life with your friends, it's the only way to a peace of mind sometimes.

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2-3 times a week is completely normal. I don’t understand how he’s being lazy. He started a new job, he’s tired. Don’t compare your relationship to others.

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I wouldn't compare sex lives with anyone else. Sex is a very personal thing between the partaking people. If you are actually unhappy with your sex life or feel it is lacking talk to your boyfriend about it. Though sex is also a 2 way street so if you feel like it is your bf who is lacking maybe you should also pay attention to if there is more you could or should be doing.
 Also personally the multiple times in a night has never really been a thing for me but it is because my long term bf's have always been able to go really long without orgasming themselves. I'd also rather not go again so quickly after they finish to avoid a higher risk of pregnancy. Not to mention these times your friends talk about could be lies, over exaggerated, or unusual in their own relationships, or maybe their men only last for like 15 seconds each round *shrugs*.

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Why are you comparing your life? You say you’re happy or pleased but it’s not enough because your friends say they have sex several times a night? Stop letting others lives ruin yours. It’s perfectly normal to be tired and not have multiple rounds of sex. You have sex 3 times a week and are satisfied, is it that you want to be able to say you’ve gone multiple rounds? Enjoy what you do have, not what you think you need because someone else has it.

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Your friends sex lives sound so unrealistic. Sure everyone's different but adults are busy. He works. My husband and I have se since a month if I'm lucky. I'm not saying that's 'the norm' because there really is no norm but 2 or 3 times a week for an adult man who's working makes sense to me

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Just say to him what you typed out to us, maybe he’s tired ? And his sex drive isn’t as high?

Boyfriend lazy when it comes to sex?

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