Choosing when to tell my family.

I’m 14 weeks 2 days pregnant. I have not told my mother or my father. The only person on my side of the family who knows is my sister who is also pregnant (we’re 7 weeks apart). My SO and I have told almost everyone on his side of the family and our close friends.

I have not told my mother yet because I don’t get along with her and this is a special time in my life and I don’t want her negativity intruding on my happiness. My dad I do get along with but I’m just not ready to have the conversation with him yet.

Everyday my sister is asking me when I’m going to tell my mother and father, she is calling me a piece of shit and saying I’m doing this to hurt them which is ABSOLUTELY NOT THE CASE. She is calling me every name under the sun going so far as to say if I don’t tell them soon she will. She’s treating me like I’m 15 years old who’s hiding a big secret. Not the case at all by the way, I am 25 in a healthy relationship with a career and a home, this was a planned pregnancy.

It’s not like I’m 20 weeks pregnant and trying to hide it. I’m only 14 weeks.. we only told my SOs family 2 weeks ago...

Am I so terrible for not wanting to have the conversation with my mother? It’s not going to be a special surprise moment, just a (hopefully) quick conversation.

To tell my dad, it would just have to be a phone call because he lives out of town so I’m putting it off because it’s a weird thing to bring up over the phone.

Am I really that terrible of a person for putting it off??