I’ve been married for 6yrs, together almost 10, we have 4kids together and I have my step-daughter who was born before our first. At 4 almost 5yrs married he was unfortunately arrested and jailed for a crime he didn’t directly commit. Long story short he pleaded guilty for being naive basically and now he’s doing time.

When he was arrested I was almost ready to pop with our 4th kid. Needless to say he wasn’t there at the birth an has no “physical” hand in raising the baby. Like most couples, married or not, we have had SEVERAL ups and downs including infidelity (on his part), lying, all that drama you watch movies for. Lol

Cut to 1yr after the arrest and the birth of my 4th I decided to go out to enjoy myself. I hadn’t gone out in so long that all I wanted to do was listen to some music and have a couple drinks. Never the confident type i felt I looked pretty good especially after all the hard work I put in trying to get back to my pre-baby weight. So to my surprise there were several guys looking my way, offering/buying me drinks, or just starting up conversations.

But never in a million years did I think I was going to meet my SOULMATE while married with 4kids.

The moment I saw him I felt a rush of warmth throughout my body (no it wasn’t the liquor lol) our souls connected when our eyes locked. To minimize the details that I hold on so tightly to I will say that we kissed not long after we started talking, and the kissing was epic, we exchanged numbers and texted and talked constantly.

Don’t get me wrong I knew very well how wrong it was and that I would be sick if my husband did any of it to me but I just couldn’t help myself.

Fast forward to today, I’m still married but I have my soulmate boyfriend. The situation is so complicated and I’m scared to see how it will all end. But my purpose for the post is to ask you ladies what would you do in my situation? How do you pick between years of love and pain vs your SOULMATE?

*bf is definitely not perfect but there’s something about him that feeds my heart, mind, and body*

I could literally go on for days lol but for real i need some advice!