Working different shifts needing help with balancing

I'm having difficulties in our relationship right now. I've expressed my feeling and he knows how I feel.

I work 10 hours a day. I come home to the house the same way it was before I left because he'd rather sleep all day and get up right before it's time for work. So I get home and have to do all the house work. He's very messy so I have to clean up his clothes, dishes, trash and whatever else he left laying around when he got home from work. We have several pets that i have to take care of as well. We havnt been intimate in over a month and we're.both in our mid 20's. I try, he just dosnt get the hint or uses excuses. I've expressed it makes me feel unattractive. That I desire that deeper bond between us, I've mentioned helping out more around the house, but it feels like he's not even listening to me. Nothing changes ... so here I am 3-4 times a week crying myself to bed over the stress and anxiety I already have on top of not feeling attractive enough for him