Dating a guy that just friend zoned me

Hello everyone so I am in shock

I’ve been talking to this guy for 5 months exactly and we came to see each other and stuff. We had sex on Sunday out first time and I loved it and so did he. Now he talk all the time and even after that we were talking all the time but something changed it. Now when I seen him he was down bad so I decided to take him out and treat him myself with dinner and such. I really have feelings for this guy. I paid for everything since he did last time. I’m not a money hungry female. So me treating him, I didn’t mind at all. I’m pretty much independent. I work at a hospital, going to college, have my own place and car. I do have a 2 year old me and his dad coparent. But I’m pretty much by myself or with my son. So it was actually nice getting close to someone for being single for 15 months and someone actually adoring you.

So for 3 days I’ve notice he’s been distant and I brought this up to him and he was like that’s not true. This is what he said Like “I actually love you , you’re so golden and special and I haven’t been distant” I said okay but he has been barely text and call.

So last night he tells me we have to talk and I said okay sure. We finally talk and this guy goes “ I legit wanna make you happy and this have NOTHING to do with another female I don’t want you thinking that. he goes on saying “i want to be the best man I can be with you and for you and your son but right now I am really lost in life (he was actually crying )and I don’t know. I don’t want any hand outs. I smile all the time but I’m really going through a rough time “ ... he continues “ I don’t want to mess up this opportunity with you because you’re really special and a lot of females aren’t like this and I can see you really care about me but , I’m just lost right now and if I have to put us on hold so I can give you everything you want and need later on down the line I will just do that and put this on hold. If you find someone else it’s ok I know it happens “ ...”I just want to be friends right now “ he is going through a rough patch in life. so now he barely calls or texts me at all. This guy use to text me good morning every morning for 5 months straight if he was busy that day he would tell me. He never missed a day without talking to me. But now he will watch my Instagram stories all the time and that’s it ... it’s like he just cut me off so he won’t think about me or something. He says I’m not the only one he also did his mom like this and said he just needs time to himself. He strictly told me it has nothing to do with no one else and no other. We are an hour away which was never no probably we both have cars and I have my own place. But I’m seriously lost like I feel like this is an excuse ... is it because u paid for our dinner or what ??

I was like WTF??? Of course mad but mostly hurt because I haven’t been with no one after my baby daddy he’s the one that actually caught my attention enough to actually be with. I’ve dated and had my fun but he’s someone I actually want to potentially move forward with.

I want to tell him so bad “ listen I know we’re not that deep yet in but I really want to be here for you. As a friend , girl friend or whatever. I know right now you’re hurting and going through a lot but I just want to be here for you as someone that never turned their back on you. And I would really appreciate if you didn’t just cut me off like that.

He says he’s not cutting me off but he won’t call

Or text at all so I don’t know. I guess I need to let this go. I’m just shocked I really did put a lot of time into this, like he use to call himself so ugly all the time and such. Like I legit tried to pick up this man’s confidence. He’s been single for a year his ex cheated on him and had a kid on him while he was taking care of her kids and everyone else. So he’s really hurt I understand but why cut me off