Lightning butt??

So I'm definitely experiencing lightning crotch and the feel of her head grinding on my cervix 😂😖

Butt... (lol) last night and on and off today I have experienced severe pain and pressure in my rectum and butt. It makes me shoot straight up and it feels like I have to go to the bathroom really bad but when I try nothing. 😩

I've noticed the past two weeks I've had very hard, small stools that are difficult to pass. (Sorry tmi). Wondering if constipation is the culprit here. I have doculax stool softener (not laxative) and was thinking of taking one but a little scared. Don't want it to make me sick. Any suggestions on what else to do or take to help have a easier BM? Does a stool softener actually work? (its listed on my paper as being safe) An enima maybe? I've been trying to eat high fiber and drinking lots of water but still no hope in sight yet... and is constipation what is causing this pain?

Thank you mamas!