Should I change my OB?🤷🏽‍♀️

Question

I am now 28 weeks and I still don’t know how I feel about my OB.
She doesn’t always make me feel comfortable. She is constantly asking me when I go back to work but she has me off work because of my job. She makes me feel like crap when she brings up how much I gained. Idk what to say I haven’t changed the way I ate. Don’t judge me.And when I tell her of things I feel she almost always sums it up to round ligament pain. What!?🤦🏽‍♀️
The office is also really far from me. I just feel weird switching. What if the next doctor is the same? 😔 sigh I know ultimately it’s my decision but I’m trying to weigh out options

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I mean nothing you said really sounds rude or unprofessional to me but if you’re not clicking with your OB definitely try another one, maybe even in the same clinic you can see several to find out which one you like best. Not that it matters too much as for the most part we have minimal control over who will actually deliver baby. BUT it is important to feel cared for during pregnancy

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Aside from how she puts things... let's say when you went into labor there were complications ( not saying it will, knock on wood), would you feel comfortable and at ease that she has your best interest in mind and that she would do the right things to make sure you and baby are healthy? 
 I only put it into perspective that way bc I had a dr, my previous obgyn who retired, who was the same way. He didnt candy coat anything and when i gained more than the recommended weight for my last pregnancy he asked if i needed to see a nutritionist to learn how to eat. As much as i was offended he was just doing what was right. I had gained alot more weight and it did hurt my feelings. But that's why I liked him. It was all up front and honest. 
In my opinion if you arent comfortable with your dr if something were to arise during labor than I would say you should look for a new one. Labor is already a nerve raching thing. You shouldn't have to worry about your dr as well.

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Well, most don’t sugar coat your weight gain. 
Also, a lot of troubles are ligament pain unfortunately. If you don’t like her demeanor, it’s easy to switch. Call a new ob and have them retrieve your records after you sign for them to be able to

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If you are 28 weeks, just be aware many practices won’t take you in the 3rd trimester. So if you are going to change do so quickly. Also I’ve gained a lot and every appt it comes up, it’s their job to monitor everything. It’s also their job to ask your probing questions. You may not love the phrasing... but, most of those questions sounds reasonable. My MD asks me 100 questions on everything from my mental health to how my husband is doing...

Should I change my OB?🤷🏽‍♀️

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