Mental health

Okay so I haven’t publicly posted about this but I come from a strict Asian family. I’m 22 and I have a curfew of 10pm and I’m not allowed to sleep over at people’s houses (not even my friends or boyfriend).

I’m quite independent at home, I do my own laundry, cook my own food, I have a job and I study at the same time, I pay my own bills and even clean around the house. Whenever I have afternoon shift at the hospital I travel home on my own in the dark at 10pm even though my area is dangerous.

Yesterday I slept over at my boyfriend’s house bc we went over to a friend’s house and got lit.

When I got home today, I found a letter on my bed from my mum. It said that she won’t help me with my laundry anymore. The thing is, I never asked. Am I the one at fault here?? Every time I try to reason with her she tries to change the topic and claims that I’m not respecting her.

Recently my boyfriend had an argument with his father and so he moved out. He also couldn’t reason with him, although he loves his mother and sister, he had to move out bc his father was abusive. He also comes from an Asian family.

I’m not sure if I’m the only one who’s seeing this, but am I being pushed to an ultimatum similar to my boyfriend’s situation??? Because from the way I see it, it’s as if I’m being kicked out from the family. I’ve always felt as if my opinion doesn’t matter here.

I wanted to stay strong and stay here until I graduate which would be in two years. Even my boyfriend wants me to graduate first so that I can move in with him bc he wants me to be stable and not have to struggle like he is right now.

My mum also wouldn’t take me out to drive to finish my hours. So I have to pay a driver to learn. I don’t earn much bc I can’t work over 15 hrs as a student with government support.

TL;DR: I’m 22, from a strict asian family, and it’s hard for me to have a social life due to my curfew and restrictions. And I’m just fucking over it all