TTC now, or wait?

Question

My husband and I are young and recently married. We were living with my mom after college to save money, and were planning to move out after we got married which was about a month ago. Here’s the thing now... my mom says she might get a second place in a different state by my brother in the next few months, and she would stay there about 75% of the time.
If she does, we would be able to stay in her house, and would be alone 75% of the time, and wouldn’t have to pay rent. So if this happens, it’s a great option financially. 
The other thing is, we feel we want to start trying to have a baby. I just feel so weird about it because we still live with my mom, at least for another few months. And I am worried that even if she does move, I’ll still feel not quite as grown-up because I’m still living in her house even if she’s not there. 
But at the same time, it seems very irresponsible to move just for the sake of moving, and to spend money on rent when it isn’t necessary. But then it also seems weird to get pregnant when we still live with her. But THEN it seems silly to delay having a baby because of this. 
Thoughts?

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Well if you want to feel an adult, why not pay rent to your mom?
If she doesn't feel like you need to pay rent, she can put it into a savings account. If we had one of the kids working and living with us that's what we would do. 
Is your mom ok with you having a baby in her house? And if she is, why worry?
Goodluck, have fun xxx

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My husband and I got pregnant while my mother stayed with us. She stayed with us for a few years for financial reasons. Though we’d been in the same house, my husband and I lived different lives than her and would do our thing, and she’d do hers. It was helpful when we needed someone to watch our daughter after I gave birth. Often times, we’d just go out as a family ourselves, even staying elsewhere sometimes, or she’d leave. It made sense financially so we made it work. We looked at it as more like a roommate type scenario because it was done for financial reasons and we may have spent time together with her, but we did our own thing, so it wasn’t odd for us. She was also around towards the end of my pregnancy when my husband had to work during the day if I went into labor early (which didn’t happen) to get me to the hospital and he’d have met us there (I delivered 1 1/2 hours from our home at the time by choice as it was a better hospital). So I say go for it! You guys will be living your own lives most of the time and while she’s there, just keep doing things yourself. If you see of it as more of a roommate situation when she’s there and keep doing what’s best for you, it’s not odd imo. Plus it’ll allow for help or support if needed during the pregnancy if your man can’t be there at times when she is.

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I’ll also add that in my situation my mother paid her share of rent to us and utilities, or bills that were hers, while we paid our own way. Made it easy to see it as a roommate situation, especially when we’d all just shared a home but did our own thing. My husband and I (and our 3 year old) don’t have my mom living with us anymore as we all went our own way where that’s concerned, but at the time it worked. Just do what works for you, but if you want it bad enough, my opinion is don’t wait.

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