I'm sooooooo confused..... LONGISH POST/RANT

Both of the pictures below are at 20 weeks but how can I look kinda pregnant in the top one (black top) and that I have abit of a bump to move my clothes and have no bump at all see bottom picture (striped top) 🤔🤔😕😕

I weighed 227lbs at beginning of pregnancy and I still weigh 227lbs now just wondering when I might have a bump that I can look at and go that's where my baby girl is... Rather than looking in a mirror and thinking why don't i even look pregnant I know I'm plus sized... I tried losing weight before pregnancy and I managed to lose nearly 20lbs but will I ever look pregnant or just constantly look overweight even my family can't tell I'm pregnant 🙄🙄

I tried talking to my mum and partner but they both say ohh yeah you do look pregnant but as soon as I move my clothes I see the look of shock on the faces😲 as if to say ohh where did the baby bump go.

I feel like I'm going insane trying to figure out why I haven't got a bump and will I ever get one 😭😭😭