Being told..

That I either learn to be a more organized and clean person or he will divorce and leave me. My husband and I work the same job same hours and everything then we come home at 12am most of the time and that’s when I care for my 6 month old (I know it’s late but it’s going to change soon) then I end up finishing putting him to bed at 2am while my husband plays video games. By this time I have a bad headache and I’m cramping (18 weeks pregnant) and the house is a mess. I choose sleep over cleaning so I can feel better. But I can’t fall asleep because my husband is playing video games still until 4am most days if not later.. then gets into bed with me and tells me I’m sick of living like this it’s constantly a disaster.. (before I was pregnant I felt better and I would stay awake and clean every day) he said if I don’t change this and I don’t start to pick up the house then he will leave me just like he left his ex it would be that easy. Tomorrow is our anniversary. So I stay up crying while he falls asleep. But I don’t understand why I am the only one who can clean we work the same job, we have the same hours, he doesn’t take care of our child I do everything for the baby, I make the food, all while he plays video games. I mean half of this mess is his but he doesn’t see it that way. He expects me to keep the house clean, keep the car clean, and keep our shoo and warehouse clean and not help with any of it. So yes I am a messy person because I work a hard labor job 8-9 hours a day (work on cars) then I take care of my child then I feel like crap by the end of the day. But he really threatened to divorce me 1 day before our 1 year anniversary of being married. I just feel even worse then I did I don’t even want to try anymore.. I’m going to make this house spotless today after work I will just push through my uncomfort..

Also before when we would have this problem he would actually have us right down what we do to see who does more in a day so it can be “even” he had a longer list because he would right “kiss you” and crap like that but in the end I did more things that actually required doing something