Relationship Problems :(

So my boyfriend and I are very young. I’m 19, he’s 20. We started dating when we were just in middle school (I was 13, he was 14). We grew with each other throughout all of high school. Naturally, when you’re so young and you still stay with someone for the amount of time as what we have, mistakes are bound to be made.

About a year ago his parents moved away. Instead of living 3 minutes away, he would live an hour and a half away. He quit his job and moved. He lived with his parents for a few months and decided he didn’t want to be there, so he moved in with a friend who lives closer to me.

Recently we’ve been fighting a lot. He’s been constantly job hopping since his parents moved away (he had a steady job before they did move). The job he has now is seasonal work and they also don’t work when it rains, which means he’s barely been working. He’s just barely scraping by but he refuses to look for a job elsewhere or go home to his parents to get back on his feet. Instead he gets angry at everyone and everything. He’s been depressed. If he isn’t sleeping in all day and smoking marijuana, he’s being angry.

He hangs out with his friends but doesn’t hang out with me anymore. When he’s with them he smokes and drinks (which I hate due to his past).

I’m in college and we’ve been planning our lives together, but right now that’s on hold due to the situation he’s putting himself in. Because of this, we’re always arguing over his life choices. He won’t admit he’s having problems.

His parents have tried helping and talking to him but nothing has worked. Today we went and visited them. Him and I ended up getting in a fight there and his parents had to bring the fight into a discussion level. We were all crying and it was just an emotional moment.

Has anyone had really rough patches with you S/O that you questioned if you should’ve stayed? Do you think it’s worth it for me to work on our relationship? He’s a great guy. I love him so much and he loves me. We’re just at a stand still right now.