Irritated by mother in law

This is just my rant. I’m trying to get to the bottom of why MIL irritates me every time she comes to visit. DS is 6 weeks and MIL has come 5-6 times. She passive aggressively suggested that she doesn’t get to see pictures of DS because we don’t allow or post pictures of him on social media. So now I feel obligated to send her pics of him even though my husband already regularly does it. I get that she can’t get enough of him. We all feel that way.

Anyway she never out right asks for what she wants. Instead she hints at it by making some other statement or asking some question. It irritates me so much because I feel like I have to constantly be on guard because she’s got a hidden agenda! I get headaches every time she visits because of the anxiety talking to her gives me. I can’t even nap because I have so much anxiety I don’t trust her watching DS while he’s napping so I can relax. My husband took a nap the other day while she was visiting but because I couldn’t sleep I went to organize DS’s onesies. She followed me into his nursery and proceeded to ask me what design was on every single onesie. I kept saying ‘I don’t know’ hoping she would take the hint because I was so frustrated I didn’t think I could communicate directly with her without blowing up.

Now today she texted me saying she hopes me and DS have a nice day. This text is code for send pics. I haven’t responded because I don’t want her to think that indirectly communicating with me will get her what she wants.

Taking a step back I know this all sounds petty too but for some reason it has been bugging me so much! I should be happy she is so excited for our son and I should be happy to share his pics but I can’t get over how frustrated I am with her.

I’m 6 weeks postpartum...this can’t be hormones anymore right? This is just me being angry and irritable? I’ve asked my husband to send her pics so I don’t have to engage for a bit and she’ll get the pics she wants. I need this feeling to pass because I never got annoyed with her before I was pregnant and had DS but now I can barely look her in the eye to have a conversation because she makes me so mad.

Also my husband who promised me he’d keep our C-section video between us got excited and showed it to his parents. I’m still upset about that and pissed off that they watched it. I was very clear with everyone that I didn’t want anyone in the room and that I wanted to video to be between my and my husband only. Hubs has since apologized for it but I think it’s contributing to my anger against MIL.

Anyway thanks for allowing me to rant. I don’t want to make husband feel bad so I haven’t addressed this with him. Trying to vent here to sort out how I feel before I bring it up.