So I’m cleaning house while the kiddos are at their fathers house. And in the kids bathroom I see a POSITIVE pregnancy test in the trash. My heart literally fell out of my asshole.

I have a 13 year old daughter and almost 15 year old son, I’m shook!!!

They come back home Sunday and I’m like WTF do I do or say.. should I go over there and “have lunch” and talk about it.

I didn’t finish cleaning as it pulled at my heart to think that one of my babies is going to be having a baby.. upset because they are young doing grown folks activities..

If you’ve experienced similar situations or you had a baby young please feel free to leave your stories or advice..

*UPDATE*

Thank you so much ladies for all your kind words of wisdom! It’s amazing to me how sweet y’all are!!

My kids were going to be with their father til Sunday but earlier this morning I got a text from my daughter and asked if her and I could go school clothes shopping early (meaning today, I had originally planned to take them next weekend) so I without hesitation told her of course!

I go to pick her up and i could just feel like she wanted to burst into tears. It was almost like a confirmation that the test was my daughter’s. We discussed the stores she wanted to go to and we just went shopping and I acted like nothing (I didn’t want to force it out of her)

So then we go to lunch at her favorite place chipotle lol and before going inside she said “mom promise you will love me no matter what”.. I couldn’t hold the tears back and I told “NOTHING can make me stop loving you” and she began to tell me that was in fact pregnant by her guy friend (they’ve been friends since kindergarten) and we just talked about pregnancy and what were going to do from here and telling her father and her guy friend and all that jazz. We have her 1st OB appointment on Tuesday.

**UPDATE**

Thank you once more for all the wonderful comments. Everyone has their opinions and stories and I’m happy to have read ALL of them. Being truthful sometimes comes off as harsh, but I got thick skin😊. Trust me I do feel like a failed parent, and yes I am angry but what’s done is done.

Backtrack Real Quick - my daughter started her period when she was 11 and that day we had a “woman’s day” we talked periods,sex, pregnancy, birth control: the pill and condoms,abortions and adoptions. We went through it all. Several months after, I noticed she has periods like mine SUPER heavy to the point it makes you anemic. Her doctor decided it would be best to put her on BirthControl pills to help her flow and she chose to go along with the doctors decision.

To the point now- After her telling me shes pregnant she didn’t go back to her fathers but we spend the next 5 days until the OB, talking about ALL her options in detail. She told her guy friend now boyfriend:) (who is 16 btw with a job) and his family about the baby. They were just silent. I wasn’t expecting them to throw a party about it but I respect them for being silent instead of flying off the handle and saying things they might regret like majority of people would. Later that night his mom called me and said “well I guess we’re apart of the granny club now” lol.

So the night before the appointment my daughter tells me that they’ve been talking about it and she feels that she wants to give the baby up adoption. She said she based her decision off my sister whom struggles with male factor infertility and has had 6 failed <a href="https://glowing.com/glow-fertility-program">IVF</a> transfers and 4 stillbirths and she also said she felt like her aunt and uncle would be better parents than she could be right now. My daughter even called them and told them about the pregnancy and asked if they would be willing or wanted to adopt the baby. I’m proud that she’s thoughtful and selfless and thinking about how much joy it would bring to her aunt and uncle.

So me and my daughter and her boyfriend go to her OB appointment. Doctor was stunned to see her for pregnancy. Appointment went like normal. The doctor even re-explained pregnancy, birth, and postpartum in great details to her. She did an ultrasound to measure the baby to see actually how far along she is, she’s measuring 6weeks 4days. When the ultrasound was being done and watching my daughter looking at the little seed on the screen, she was in utter disbelief/shock and started to tear up.

Sorry this was a long update but thank you to all, for your sweet comments and tough love/ brutally honesty comments. All of which was need 😊.

** Final update**

It’s been about week since I updated. But anyways, couple days after my daughter’s OB appointment she had a miscarriage.

It broke my daughter’s spirit in its entirety.

So for all the comments about Abortion-guess you alls suggestion was fullfilled but naturally.

Thanks again!