Me and my baby’s dad have have been together for almost 3 years. We’re both 20. We’ve been through a lot together but haven’t been getting along for a while now.

He’s cheated and lied and done a million other shitty things to make me not be able to trust him and that led to me kicking him out at the beginning of my pregnancy. We haven’t been together since and I’m due in a few weeks now.

We still hang out and talk fairly often and I have decided to let him move back in this week as I could really use the help and I want him to have a chance to bond with our son and learn how to take care of him once he’s here and I want to make sure he’s here when I give birth since that will be very soon.

I really want to try and make things work and try one last time to have our little family together. Its just hard because he does so many things that make me upset or angry and I feel like all I do is bitch at him about these things now and I don’t want that to be how things are.

He goes behind me back to hang out with shady people and do things he knows I wouldn’t be ok with and then deletes all his messages constantly so I don’t find out. He lies about smoking cigarettes and weed saying he’s quit when he hasn’t and is extremely irresponsible, says he can’t find a job even though it’s been over a year now of him supposedly looking. He doesn’t make any real effort to grow up or be responsible.

I feel like I’m his mom most of the time. I don’t want that to be how our dynamic is and I don’t know how to handle these things without nagging at him and at this point, it’s clear that isn’t working. I’ve tried talking calmly in the past about our issues but he just makes promises and doesn’t end up keeping any of them.

I really need some advice on how to possible make things better in our relationship or how to make things work especially once our sons here..