Amniocentesis, possible tfmr, NIPT positive, more scared than ever

J

EDIT: PLEASE DO NOT COMMENT IF YOU ARE NOT COMFORTABLE WITH SOMEONE TERMINATING FOR MEDICAL REASONS. YOU ARE MAKING THIS MORE DIFFICULT FOR ME IF YOU DECIDE TO RESPOND QUESTIONING MY LOVE FOR MY DAUGHTER

A little more than two weeks ago, my fiance and I got our NIPT results back. We were surprised when we saw a genetic counselor in the first place; my fiance is 32, I'm 27, and we are both healthy. My first pregnancy. My PAPP-A measured low at 0.21MoM, I was told my risk for abnormalities was higher and should get this testing done. We weren't too worried since everything else was perfect.

About a week later, we got the NIPT results. Natera's Panorama came back "positive" for Trisomy 21/Down Syndrome.

The genetic counselor said "i have unfortunate news. Your baby has a 9/10 chance of having Down Syndrome." That was it. She didn't even bother to tell me that the test showed we were having a little girl, I only found that out myself after I begged her to email me the pdf of the results. Fetal fraction was at 9.7%. The test was done around 12 weeks, I think.

I have an amniocentesis today if they can draw enough fluid. I have not been taking good care of myself, I have cried more than ever before, I am more depressed and hopeless than ever before. I know life will go on but I feel so broken. I just want a family of my own.

If anybody has stories of false positives for T21 on the NIPT please comment & tell me about them. I know there are many stories regarding false positives for basically everything else (especially monosomy x, t13, t18) so I would rather not hear about those false positives, they dont really concern me.

I'll update to let everyone know how it went.

I wasn't sure where to post this, I hope under general pregnancy is ok.