Boyfriend an asshole or me?

Ok so 1 month and a half after having my daughter vaginally with no epidural or anything, my boyfriend and I started having problems. I breastfed and did everything for my daughter EVERYTHING while my boyfriend worked. I stayed at home a little over 6 months. I get that he was working and everything but he didn’t learn how to change a diaper until a year after her birth. He literally wasn’t involved he would just come home eat ask me to please him sexually and go to sleep. While hanging out with his friends and leaving us no time. I just wanted him to choose us and have a bit of help. He would get mad because I didn’t feel like giving him head or a hand job and argue with me after I would just get my daughter to sleep. Leaving me to once again not sleep as he slept peacefully. He would say that I didn’t do anything all day as he came home to a clean house, food, and my daughter asleep. He literally would make me feel like shit because I “stayed home all day doing nothing”. I had no help at all and I was stressed, bleeding from childbirth, and super tired. He wouldn’t even hang out with us on his days off or watch my daughter while I showered or did simple things for myself. So every night he would yell at me for not wanting to satisfy his needs when all I wanted was sleep. When I stopped bleeding months later he was trying to pressure me and belittling me everyday because he “needed” to cum. Am I just an asshole? Should I have just got over myself and did what he wanted? He says I am ungrateful/unappreciative because I don’t want to cater to his every sexual need every time he wants. He says a lot of women would love to be in my position. He has been emotionally, physically, and verbally abusive on many occasions. He even went as far as dragging me across the floor by my hair at 6 months pregnant. I can’t get over all he’s done but I’m stuck financially. I guess this is what he wanted.