He doesn’t get it

He does what the hell he wants and don’t take in consideration that we are in relationship. You would think that he was single sometimes. I keep explaining to him you can’t make decisions without me! You wanted me to move in and I always told him that this is big step. Everything will be different.

I brought new beds for the house because our dog peed on his old one which was a king size bed and my full size bed had a soda stain. Both beds were causing issues with our house and bodies. I told him to take the old beds to the dumpster idc which one but take it to dumpster. So he was supposed to ask his teammates if he could use their truck.

Now yesterday I wasn’t feeling well so I went to sleep early. I wake to go to work and as he’s dropping me off, he tells me that someone is going to pick up my full size mattress. So my first thought was he was telling me not discussing this. I let him go on. He then goes on to stay that he didn’t want to wake me up last night, that’s why he’s telling me now.

One that wasn’t yours to give away and it’s dirty. It’s been sitting on the porch for a week or so(plus this big soda stain). Instead of telling the people “ok let me talk to my girlfriend about it and I’ll get back with you”, tells these people to come get it. He’s always coming to some justification and switching up shit I said which makes me madder then I already was. Now I don’t have a problem with him giving somebody a dirty mattress if they really want it. My problem is him having the lack consideration, communication, understanding. Just talking to me before he does shit.

The first time something like this happen was when he up and quit his job. I had my own apartment and didn’t want to move in with him yet. My biggest problem was feeling like I was moving in to pay the bills. Basically to be an ATM. He brought the idea of him quitting but we never had a conversation about it. I got paid more than him and he was ok with it. Then two weeks later he tells me that he quit his job and needs to draw up his two week notice. Same thing he started putting words in my mouth, started saying we talked about, etc. no we didn’t he mentioned it and we never talked about again. He thinks he’s going to a refund from college. Yeah for this semester and it’s not something that you can count on each semester. I wanted to go part time for my job and and I can’t do that because he doesn’t have a job and we need to pay rent.

I’m starting to get fed up with this shit because he’s proving me right.