Sleep training methods???

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Can someone explain some methods if you know them? Everytime I read an article it gives me the run-around and then at the very bottom it says "purchase book" or here's my "free" download.. always with a catch. Please help.. trying so hard to do ferber but it's not working. I give that up.

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Why isn’t it working? Normally if Ferber isn’t working something isn’t being done correctly or the parent is giving in. We did Ferber method and it took three nights

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Here was our sleep journey:
Newborn to 4 months - Daughter slept with us on the couch. We didn’t really sleep much since we were making sure she stayed safe, but it’s the only way she would sleep at all. We took it in four hour shifts. One parent would sleep in bed and the other would sit on the couch holding her. Total survival mode. 
What we did so from day one was establish a bed time routine. At 8 o’clock the lights went out, we changed her into jammies, and told her it was time for bed. We didn’t expect her to sleep all night, but this helped sort her day/night confusion pretty well. Even though we weren’t sleeping much, she got pretty good at sleeping 3-4 hours at a time during the night.
The other thing we did right away was “ignored” her at night. We fed and changed her as necessary, of course, but we didn’t interact with her or talk to her and tried not to turn on too many lights. We just did what was needed and then settled back into our sleeping position. She usually fell back asleep after middle of the night changes and feeds.
4 to 6 months - She started to show signs of self-soothing during naps and at night. She didn’t always need to be held to sleep anymore and sometimes she would wake herself up from a nap, cry, and then fall back asleep again instead of waking up for good. We decided to sleep train in our room. 
We added to the bedtime routine: last bottle, jammies, story, bed. After we put her to bed she cried, which we expected, so here was the method we used.
On night one we checked on her after one minute of crying, then two minutes of crying, four minutes of crying, eight minutes of crying and she fell sleep sometime before the sixteen minute check in.
On night two we checked on her after two minutes of crying, four minutes, eight minutes and then again she fell asleep before the sixteen minutes.
On night three we checked on her after four minutes of crying and then she fell asleep before the eight minute check.
On night four she fell asleep before what would have been the first check in (eight minutes).
We only checked in if she was still crying and at each check in we patted her on the back (or belly), told her “goodnight, we’re still here” and left the room. No picking her up, no lights, no more interaction than that.
After six months we moved her into her own room and basically repeated the same process as she got used to her new surroundings. It took about three nights of training again, but then she got the hang of it.
She is 18 months old now and still sleeps in her own crib, in her own room through the night. She usually falls asleep within five minutes of us telling her “goodnight”. Rarely we have to help her at night. If she does fuss or chat to herself in the middle of the night, we usually give her five minutes to calm herself down and fall back asleep. This works 99% of the time. If her wake up is longer than that, it’s usually something we need to help with.
For instance, two nights ago she woke up in the middle of the night and was still lightly fussing every couple minutes so I checked on her and she’d pooped through her diaper so I had to change her and her jammies. But, just like when she was a newborn I didn’t interact with her. I just cleaned her up and put her back to bed and she fell asleep again.
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Additional tips and accessories:
She was bottle and formula fed from two weeks old, so that may dictate how much your partner can help depending on if you’re breastfeeding or not.
She slept with a pacifier and still does (that’s gonna be our next project after she’s 2).
She didn’t like swaddles, but she loves sleep sacks. 
After a year old a stuffed animal helped her get to sleep and get back to sleep in the middle of the night.
She sleeps with a white noise machine or a fan running.
Some nights (very few) it takes her up to a half hour to fall asleep. On those nights she’s usually chatting to herself or fussing on and off about being in bed. As long as they’re not cries of distress, we leave her alone. If she’s standing in her crib really crying or she’s not asleep within the half hour, it usually means she’s not feeling well and needs some rocking to sleep and a doctor visit the next day.
We still have the same bedtime routine at the same time of night (minus the bottle now that she doesn’t take them anymore).
We take turns with which parent is “on call” each night. Like I said, 99% of the time she doesn’t need assistance through the night, but each parent gets the peace of mind that they’ll get to sleep all night even if the baby does need help.
We try to keep her days busy and active and do “quiet play” in the hour leading up to bedtime. Quiet play is things like reading books, dressing up her dolls, or having her sit on our laps and chatting calmly with her.
When you’re doing the sleep training, it’s tough to hear her crying, but remember she’s okay! We knew it would be hard and that it might take a while for her to settle down on those first few nights so we played games down the hall and distracted ourselves while she fussed until it was time for the check in.

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Can you explain more about what isn’t working? What are you already trying or what have you tried and for how long? How old is your baby?

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I hired a sleep consultant and it has been the best money I have ever spent. My daughter is very active, rambunctious and stubborn and I had the hardest time putting her to sleep and she was waking up several times thru out the night and after 3 nights of following the program she was able to put her self to sleep and sleeps 12hr straight and used to take 2 good naps(now that she is 2yrs old she only takes one nap) but honestly it’s worth the money. I used Kelly Murray sleep consultant google her

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